Hi Betty,

Until about a year ago I was suffering from primary anorgasmia (which I have put down to the contraceptive pill). I am 24, started having sex at 17. My experiences with orgasms both solo and with a male partner are always clitoral and feel like a wonderful build but more like a ‘sigh’ of release. However, sometimes when I am on top I will have two of these ‘build and sigh’ orgasms and then I have this SUPER strong sexual arousal, the sensation that I’m about to pee and then more of a wave of release. I should note that with none of these do I feel ‘pelvic contractions’.

Dear Dr. Betty Hello,

I’m 16 years old by now and I have been dating my boyfriend for 8 months. We have had sex by all this time and I have always experienced the same when he penetrates me, anything. Before penetration we normally masturbate each other and he usually plays with my clitoris, this gives me pleasure but at the same time I get super stressed and I just can think about him stopping masturbating me.

Once a woman understands she can have both clitoral stimulation with vaginal penetration, it ends this discussion.

I was Betty's "stunt cunt" and my vulva and orgasm were broadcast on national television in Norway. It was surreal and worth it.