Hi there Dr. Betty,

I'm in my mid 20's & for various reasons I'm still a virgin. This may sound like a stupid question but would a guy be able to tell I was a virgin when I have sex for the first time? Would it be obvious or am I better off telling him - being a virgin in your mid 20's makes you seem a bit like an anti social freak.

Thanks, D

Dear D,

The hymen is a soft membrane that naturally breaks open for menstruation. Most women bleed their first time due to lack of arousal.

Your vagina will gradually change as the muscles are slowly stretched.