I Can't Find My Clitoris

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Betty Dodson

Dear Betty

I could really use your expert help. I am 17 and have recently lost my virginity with my boyfriend and was disappointed to find out that sex wasn’t like on TV. In fact I don’t really get any pleasure from it at all and my boyfriend, who has been with other girls, seems really shocked that I don’t really enjoy it.

We have tried different passions and styles and it can feel nice sometimes but that’s it really so he decided to explore with his fingers, which I still didn’t get much pleasure from, and see if he could find my clit. At the time I didn’t even know what a clitoris was so I got a mirror, had a look and didn’t know what I was looking for.

That’s when I came across your website and galleries which really helped me to see what a clitoris was but I don’t seem to have any of that, I don’t appear to have a hood or a clitoris and when I felt around the area where its suppose to be, I didn’t get any enjoyment. Is there a chance that I don’t have one or that I do and it doesn’t work properly. I would really appreciate your help. And would just like to say that I think your website is great and has really help me. :)

Thank you for your time.

Dear N,

I seriously doubt that you do not have a clitoris. Instead of letting your boyfriend hunt for your clitoris, it's important that you spend some quality time in front of a proper free standing makeup mirror that's 6 to 8 inches in size under a bright light sitting in a private space for at least ten minutes or more. Do not use the magnifying side of your make-up mirror as that distorts the image.

After you have done this every day for a week then get back to me and tell what you have discovered about your beautiful vulva, clitoris and all.

Dr. Betty

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