It's not vaginal vs. clitoral orgasms...you want both.
Most vaginas have little feeling. Your clitoris has 8,000 nerve endings.
If you want to increase the intensity of your orgasms, edging - getting in front of an orgasm and holding back - will do the trick.
Your first contact with your vulva should be with your hands. Then, as you age, including a vibrator can enhance your pleasure.
Step by Step instructions for using your barbell.
There is nothing wrong with being celibate.
It is time to redirect the focus on cultivating our sexual relationship with ourselves.
You are a self-sexual which is a valid lifestyle.
You're using sex to torture yourself. Become a celibate priestess for a week or two.
Why don't you go ahead and Pee so the feeling goes away and then have your orgasm?