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Carlin Ross
I am a certified Bodysex facilitator located in Buffalo, NY. I have a strong background in science and mathematics, and I love to travel and enjoy nature.
As so many of us have, I have faced certain struggles in discovering, exploring and embracing my sexuality. Living with depression, anxiety and shame, made it impossible to know who I was as a person and as a sexual being. Without Bodysex, I would’ve continued to struggle with my identity and finding my place in this world.
Bodysex is so much more than just learning how to be sexually fulfilled by having independent orgasms. It is strength, self-confidence, beauty and love. Love for yourself, truly loving who you are, is the key to healing, success, happiness, creativity and overcoming shame and anxiety.
In my first Bodysex circle in 2016, Betty said “we’ve all been through hell”. I certainly believe this to be true. As women, we have faced many challenges, experienced sexual trauma and shame, been the subject of discrimination, and have learned to survive in a world built by and for men. That ends here and now.
Learn to love and heal yourself, take charge of your pleasure and orgasm, and control your own destiny.
Currently, I am working on developing more materials for individuals with disabilities. As an AuDHD (autistic and ADHD) woman diagnosed as an adult, there have been additional struggles with social stigma, sensory differences and communication with sexual partners, all of which have affected my sexual practice and pursuit of pleasure. Managing autistic meltdowns, burnout, chronic pain, depression and anxiety is a regular part of my life and directly affects my sexual desire and my ability to experience pleasure. These things are common amongst ND folks and cannot be ignored if we are to better understand, heal and love ourselves fully.
The greatest thing I have learned to incorporate into my masturbation practice is nervous system regulation. A combination of self-regulating exercises and rituals can be hugely helpful to let go of anxiety and move into pleasure. Some potential exercises include: breathwork, body movement, self-touch, vulva massage, adding sensory stimuli, removing sensory stimuli, masturbation yoga and mediation
Current offerings:
Masturbation & Pleasure Education Session – Remote setting, one-on-one; $60 for 1 hour session
Autism & Sex – Recorded Seminar; $45 for lifetime access to video recording
Vulva Massage Video – Learn and practice vulva massage; $35 for access to recording
*Set up a session or gain access to recordings, email BuffaloBodysex@gmail.com for more information!
Contact: BuffaloBodysex@gmail.com