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Dear Dr. Betty,

I have been looking around google to try and find something that tells me exactly what goes on in your body to make you feel that climax sensation. I have had no luck, for one website told me that the more orgasms a women has, the more cum builds up in some sack near your bladder, and eventually needs to drain itself through, in simplified way, "squirting". So yea... no luck.

What goes on internally? what is that blood rushing sensation in your clit and why does it feel so good?

Dear D,

I would suggest you simply observe your own body and it's sensations before consuming too much more information. Without a basic sexual understanding from self-observation, much of what you read becomes misinformation. Like "the more orgasms a women has, the more cum builds up in some sack near your bladder" ??? No, no, no! That's crappy information so forget it.

I've been working with and observing a gazillion other women including myself and I still can't tell you what exactly happens in our bodies to make us feel that climax sensation! You can talk about tumescence (sex organs filling up with blood as in erection) and increased heart rate, more rapid breathing, bla, bla, bla. So what? If you spend time observing yourself, you will notice that not all of your orgasms are alike-- some are much better, richer or stronger that others. That can relate to your school work, your diet, drugs, or your menstrual cycle, etc, etc. And I haven't even mentioned your frame of mind which also plays a huge role. Like did you just meet some cute guy you're hot for? Or did you break up with some shithead who just dumped you?

Have you read Masters and Johnson's research or Kinsey who was the most inclusive or my favorite Wilhelm Reich who surpassed Freud's information? Even if you want to become a research sex scientist, I'd still recommend beginning with self-observation and keeping a diary of your observations. Then ask your girlfriends to describe their feelings during orgasm and put that in another notebook. AND throughout it all, keep an open mind. Good luck,

Dr. Betty