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Hello!

I'm having a few issues here that I would absolutely love to have some help with.

I'm really new to sexual and lesbian... Stuff (I guess I could say). I'm really attracted to my partner and I really want to explore a lot of things with her. But as a virgin who doesn't have much experience I'm not quite sure what I should be doing. I've had many fantasizes about what I would like to do with her, and I feel that we're both ready as she has fantasized as well.

I've read through your site and it's helped me with certain masturbation techniques and what not, the only issue is that I'm not sure how I could initiate sex with my lover. I'm scared I'll scare her by talking about the sort of things I want to do with her, but even if she accepted what I want to do I don't know how to do them. So I was hoping you could help me figure out what kind of things are best in a first time lesbian sexual intercourse /that involves two virgins/ and a first time relationship like ours?

Thank you, any suggestions would be greatly appreciated :)

Dear B,

Everything you said to me needs to be said to her. Please don't fall into the romantic trap of trying to read her mind while you as a novice struggle to do the perfect something that will thrill her beyond measure and end in orgasm. That is a recipe for a sexual disaster.

Sharing masturbation would make the most sense instead of trying to give each other an orgasm. That comes later if at all. I had a long term affair with a woman where we took turns heightening each others masturbation. While I used my vibrator she did vaginal and/or anal penetration with her fingers. We always used plenty organic massage oil and felt free to guide each other as to what felt best. We took turns always establishing who's turn it was to give or to receive. I can recommend this approach without any reservations. It also works for straight couples too. Communicate and Masturbate and then talk about it. It's a winning combination.

Dr Betty