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Never Been Wet

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Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I am a 25 year old girl who is in a new relationship. For the most part I am pretty healthy although I do smoke cigarettes. I am very turned on my my new boyfriend and we have hours of foreplay before sex. I can't get wet. I have never ever been able to get wet. I have had 7 partners and not one time have I ever gotten wet. I am very embarrassed about this problem.

My boyfriend thinks it's his fault like he's not good enough, I have explained to him that this isn't the case. I do use lube but don't really like that it gets sticky and we have to stop during sex to apply more. I am on Nuvaring birth control, could this be a contibuting factor? I am very upset about this. My past couple boyfriends thought it was very strange that I don't get wet and I am the only girl they've had that doesn't get wet!!! What's wrong with me?

Dear V,

There are many different kinds of lubrication's that enhance penetration sex. My favorite is the Sweet Almond oil. But if you are using condoms you must use a water based lube.

As for why you are vaginally dry I have no answer. However, it might be what you suspect, your Nuvaring. Google it and read what many women have said that is negative. I did not like what I read. When it comes to any pharmaceutical product, buyers must always beware. These big corps watch the bottom line of profit and we are the guinea pigs they experiment on.

As for embarrassment, please let it go. Don't continue to protect your boyfriend's ego. Just tell him it's your body and while you are investigating the source of the problem, he has to stop whining about it being his lack of sexual skills. I'd love to hear back from when you figure this out.

Dr. Betty

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