Once you learn how to come with yourself then you can show your guy what you like.
Ejaculation is like a reflex. Orgasm is an autonomic body response.
There isn't a "spot" in your vagina that will bring you to orgasm. Your clitoral system is complex. It's about clitoral stimulation with vaginal penetration.
Female ejaculate is clear not white like male ejaculation. Our sexual response is totally different.
Read women's real experiences with female ejaculation. It is real but has been co-opted by male-centered pornography.