Believe me if you were stuck on an island without electricity you would end up being able to use your hand eventually.
You were smart to bring in a vibrator to make your sex life more enjoyable with less jaw and neck pain from oral.
I was Betty's "stunt cunt" and my vulva and orgasm were broadcast on national television in Norway. It was surreal and worth it.
It sound to me like you are experiencing "female ejaculation."
You can upgrade your masturbation routine and increase the intensity of your orgasms.
How about having both kinds of stimulation at the same time, clitoral and vaginal?
You can retrain your clitoris to orgasm with less intense stimulation OR you can bring your vibe to partner sex.
It's up to us to explain that and not expect them to read our minds.
You're one smart man who will not be put "on pause" as you have expanded your definition of orgasmic pleasures that can continued to be shared.
I too had some in my youth but I never knew why or how to recreate them so they were never all that dependable.