Dear Dr. Betty,
For most of my life, I would not touch my vulva. I could cum only by using a vibrator... usually a wand type. Sex was rare. A year ago, my husband and I went through a marital catharsis. We elevated from an almost sexless marriage to one in which sex is a daily occurance. I changed from rare orgasms to multiple ones daily; from very difficult to arouse to constantly aroused; from very body negative to increasingly body positive. I now enjoy feeling my pussy, looking at my pussy, and showing my pussy. I think about sex most of the time. For years my job was always my first consideration. Now, not only do I have trouble concentrating on work, I don't even want to, preferring to think about sex instead. In short, I have become a sexual creature for the first time at age 54.
I am beginning to be positive about my vulva, to see it as an acceptable part of me. Contrary to most of my life, I will touch it in an erotic way and I will look at it. My husband loves the twist that the flesh has on one side; everything seems to be in a spiral. I think the color is appealing, and I like the size. I wish my clit were bigger, but it works... and works very well. I'm multiorgasmic whether the stimulation is a tongue, finger, or cock. I rarely masturbate any more; I have so much sex and so many orgasms during our daily sex play that I rarely feel a need for it any more. Still, on occasions, even after very enjoyable sex play and several orgasms, I will feel the desire for a really intense vibrator orgasm. On those occasions, I'll use my trusty old wand vibrator while my husband eats my pussy. Most of the time, though, the pleasure I get during sex play is more than enough to satisfy me.
If I could pass anything on to others, it would be the sexual pleasure and satisfaction that I now enjoy.
Leslie
