I love my vulva! I think she is beautiful! As I’ve gotten older, my inner lips do extend out beyond my outer lips more than they used to. Additionally, they are a bit more asymmetrical than they used to be. This is, in part, because one of them tore a bit as I gave birth to my son (he came out face up rather than face down which stretched things a bit differently than usual). Anyhow, I view that as my maternal badge of honor.
I generally like to have my pubic hair shaved or waxed because when she’s smooth, I can’t keep my hands off of her. I didn’t have my first orgasm until I was 32 years old and that was achieved using the Hitachi Magic Wand and the technique Betty explained on her website. It was fantastic and opened a whole new world to me! I left my husband of fifteen years and have spent the past two years exploring my (bi)sexuality.
I masturbate once a day at least and usually twice a day. There are those occasional Saturdays when I’m alone where I can spend most of the day in bed masturbating while reading erotica, watching porn, and just fantasizing in general. Those are delicious! One of my favorite things I have discovered is that, as much as I enjoy partner sex, I can give myself orgasms as powerful and wrenching as any man or woman could give me. It’s powerful to know that you don’t need someone else to feel the pleasure of sex.
Lastly, as a mother, I try to instill good, sex-positive values in my son and daughter. I have taught them to call their genitals “penis” and “vulva.” I keep my Magic Wand plugged in next to my bed and allow my children to play with it. One day, a few months ago, my son turned it on and sat on it. The next thing I know, he’s calling to his younger sister, “Hey, come here, you’ve got to try this! Sit on it!” Soon, she’s on the bed with him, they’re taking turns sitting on it and laughing the whole time. I just smiled, asked them to be sure to turn it off when they were finished, and went about my business.
