I believe that I am quite happy with my penis. It and I have been through many interesting episodes. I love the fact that it is so thick and reasonably long. I say that it is thick, because, although it might not appear so, it is in fact about 7 and a half inches long and about 2 and a half inches wide. Aesthetically, I have always just thought of it as perfect in colour, shape, and I always loved the feel of it. I discovered that there are two basic shapes to the glans, the rounded, and the inwardly curved, mine being the latter. One of my former girlfriends was convinced that I had been circumcised, as she had only seen it when it was erect, and I said, no, you need to check it out when it is flaccid, as the foreskin definitely covers the whole of the glans when it is not erect. When I was younger I used to worry about how big it was, and then I discovered, much to my delight that, while not being huge, many women loved its size, one woman commenting upon seeing “wow, it’s so big, and it’s not even hard yet.” Yes, possibly just flattery, but many women have made positive comment.
I suppose the only thing that I say to it is when masturbating is “I love my cock”, or perhaps, “I love my fat cock”.
I don’t have a name for my cock in particular, and I don’t recall referring to it by any other name in the past. However, I think that at times during sex play either my partner or I have referred to it by slang terms, in the heat of the moment as it were. See Monty Python’s The Meaning of Life for a more comprehensive list!
I love different types of lubrication, such as KY, and a fluid that my partner and I have found called mojo. As well, I love both my saliva and my partner’s saliva on my cock when she is performing fellatio, just blows my mind. As for the touch, I love the different sensations that I get from different things, such as fabrics, vibrators, my own touch, my partner’s fingers, skin and vulva, both before and after penetration. I love my testicles, perineum and anus being touched and stroked whilst I am masturbating or having sex.
At present I’m not shaved, though I do love shaving my pubic hair. I don’t generally just trim my pubic hair, as I don’t think it necessary. However, I like variation, so sometimes that happens.
Wow, well, I just love variation, however, I guess there are several things that get me off. Firstly, I love stroking myself lying on my back, sometimes just gently and sometimes fast. Being right-handed, I sometimes like to place the index finger and middle finger of my left hand on either side at the base and then stroke myself using my right hand, either grasping my entire penis using all of my fingers and thumb and sometimes just gently using index finger and thumb. Alternatively, I sometimes just use both hands, using the palms on either side of the penis. I love to stroke my perineum and anus whilst I’m playing with my cock and I especially love squeezing my nipples. Sometimes I love placing a finger or fingers in my mouth as well. Mmm, the list goes on. Lol.
I honestly can’t remember when and where I had my first orgasm. However, I do remember my first sexual encounters. My first kiss was in the back of the car when my mother was driving. In those days we didn’t have safety belts (60’s) and so I kissed this girl, my friend’s sister, in the back seat, hidden behind the front seat. We must have been about 6 or so. Lol. My first sexual encounter with a guy was (yes, I’m a male and straight, or perhaps a little kinky), was when I was about 12 I would suppose. We were both horny young guys and he and I snuck away to a field near our homes and found some thick undergrowth. We were both reasonably well-endowed, and we tried anal, but we our cocks were too thick and we were still inexperienced and didn’t know about lube. So, I have never had anal sex with a guy to this day, but always fantasise about it. I also had a mutual masturbation session with another guy in my teens. My first sex session was with a woman a couple of years older than me, when I was twenty-one. She was a gusher and the sheets got very wet. She started masturbating me, and I had never had sex, so I came quite quickly, in huge gushes, as I had been horny for quite a while, as in I had had an erection for probably several hours. We then had penetrative sex and it changed my whole perspective about life. I remember afterwards, ( I was a student and only had a bike or bus for transport) going to a friend’s place and telling her about how happy I was, as I had always suffered from mild depression and was now really overjoyed. Sex was such a revelation! Funnily, though I really enjoy masturbation, actually sharing with someone is so much more rewarding.
Regarding mutual masturbation, I have often done this, particularly when either one partner of both of us are tired or the other is not in the mood, usually my partner.
I have lots of fantasies. The only thing that I don’t really enjoy are things about violence, so I don’t like that at all. I like bondage, and a little bit of pain, such as mild whipping or paddles. I love watching my partner in leather, lycra, and lingerie of any kind and I love to have fantasies about ripping them off her. I have fantasies about her coming in and taking me, without prompting, perhaps making me do things against my will. In fact, I love fantasies about anything that I haven’t tried, or tried for a while, and I like the unexpected.
I just love the joy orgasms bring. Orgasms relax me when I'm tense, make me happy when I’m sad and I love the wonderful, beautiful and intense feelings of pleasure that I get in the build up to, during and after the orgasm.
So, many thanks to you both, what a wonderful website. I love listening to your podcasts and reading your essays. I hope my partner will be brave enough to submit her own genital art as well.
Lots of love.
Gavin
