I Put My Clit on the Line....Literally

Tue, 11/15/2011 - 11:17
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Anyone who follows us on facebook/youtube knows that we were in Oslo, Norway last August.  We were sworn to secrecy and couldn't reveal the details of our "secret sex mission"...until now. 

Betty had been invited by NRK television to do a private session on camera.  We doubted whether they'd show Betty's work on network television.  We'd filmed private sessions with History channel, the BBC and several other stations but none of it made it past the suits to broadcast.  But who doesn't want to get the hell out of nyc in August?

When we sat down for our first meeting before taping, they explained how the young reality star who'd been slated to have the session with Betty was having second thoughts.  They were going to show a vulva and orgasm on television for the first time ever in history and she didn't want it to be hers.  I'm not sure why I didn't pick up on it but they were angling to have me do the session with Betty.  When they finally asked, I was a bit shocked.  We were in Scandanavia the bastion of liberalism.  How could she have a problem being nude or sexual on camera.  That's when it hit me: they may have sex ed in schools but they still have genital shame.  Teaching kids about safe sex isn't teaching them about female genitals and orgasm. 

I accepted.  And the interesting part was that I'd never had a session with Betty.  How could I be working with Betty for three years and not experienced her work first hand?  When we first met, we flew to Copenhagen and did a Bodysex group (Our Danish Sisters) but never anything one-on-one.  And I knew that Betty was critical of my tension orgasms.  This would be interesting.

Aslaug, our producer, picked us up at our hotel - we talked the entire 20 minute ride to our location.  She'd taken the job with NRK under the express condition that they'd show a vulva on television.  She'd fought hard for it.  There was no way I would let her down. When we arrived, we realized that it was an all-female crew.  Yes!  Each woman was so warm and understood what we'd committed to do that day.

Genital show and tell - that was a piece of cake.  Then it was time for the real part of the session.  I laid down on the massage table.  The camera was literally at the end of the table between my legs.  Betty and our reality star were on either side of me.  As Betty took me through the movements: breathing, rocking my pelvis, squeezing my pc muscle and vibrating my clitoris I started to tense up.  I was following my tension orgasm routine.  Betty rubbed my belly and told me to relax - not to tense up like I'd always done.  She got between my legs - barbell in hand - and started moving it in and out of my vagina at a slight angle.  Instead of tensing up, I let the orgasm come to me and rode the wave.  I was sweating, breathing hard, and came my face off.  I looked at the reality star and said, "that's an orgasm".  

I will admit that when Aslaug emailed that the episode would run tonight I got a bit light-headed.  My mind was reeling...how would it be received...what if it's not a big deal...what if it is a big deal...what if I didn't look good (I didn't even groom)?  I braced myself and watched the episode - Our segments run at 22:15, 33:15, and 37:46 and they're in english.

My vulva is displayed in all its glory.  I have an orgasm on camera.  More importantly, all of Betty's information is right there for woman across the globe.  There isn't anything I'd change.  Congratualtions to Betty, Aslaug, NRK and the goddess of sexual love and abundance.   I'm so proud to have had the opportunity to be apart of this moment.  I'm so proud of myself for having the courage to move past sexual guilt, body image, and plain old fear. 

I put my clit on the line...literally.

Per your request, here are links to the Mystic Wand vibrator and Betty's Vaginal Barbell I used in the episode.

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It's beautiful

Tue, 11/15/2011 - 13:01
Anke (not verified)

Well done!

Carlin

Tue, 11/15/2011 - 13:24

Well done Carlin! (or should I say "Betty's private vulvamodell") I think I might have got a bit of stage fright with a young girl watching so intently. What was the outcome? Did she successfully learn how to give herself an orgasm?
Well done again for having the courage to do it on national tv :)

Thank you, Thank you!  So

Tue, 11/15/2011 - 15:24
V-Goddess (not verified)

Thank you, Thank you!  So enjoyed having a course on orgasm!  You ladies ROCK!

That was brilliant! and quite

Tue, 11/15/2011 - 15:47

That was brilliant! and quite moving. This sexual power that I take for granted has disapeared for women from our culture possibly for centuries so that a young woman  well passed puberty in 2011 has to be taught!! If I hadn't had an orgasm for a month without being too bothered, my appreciation of my own  sexuality and any desire I recieved from other people would be so much poorer. Brilliant that the message is getting out there well done to you both and Carlin you looked gorgeous!!I

Anyway I watched the whole episode. I learned there are different angles of full erection, some pointing downwards but all healthy erections. I like the way all 3 erections very quickly decended while their owners were simply standing before 2 guys :) I'd like to know how the woman got on with your advice too. Did she do the same as Carlin with your personal coaching off camera? and what was the oil you used, was it your favourite, Almond oil and what is the best make that isn't adulterated with other products or oils.  Thanks :)

Bravo!! xx

Question....?

Tue, 11/15/2011 - 15:50
D_22 (not verified)

Where can I watch it online in English? I followed the link, and watched it in Norwegian. I think it might make more sense in English though, lol.

we're having our Danish

Tue, 11/15/2011 - 16:28

we're having our Danish intern transcribe it - it's been sold to the UK so maybe they'll dub it.

The young actress didn't have an orgasm during our session.

Tue, 11/15/2011 - 17:58

Her boyfriend was stimulating her G spot inside her vagina which was doing nothing for her. Now that's she's discovered her primary sex organ for pleasure. . . her clitoris, I'm sure she's coming by now. She promised to email me when it happened but you know how fame can derail a youngster. She was the perfect example of why I rant and rail against the G spot that is surrounded with myth, confusion and misrepresentation as it's become the latest sexual fashion. Women! It's your clitoris. You can experiment with those other "spots" after you have your clitoris understood and activated.

Betty & Carlin rock so hard I can't even handle it

Tue, 11/15/2011 - 20:09

Wow. Just wow. This is really exciting! I am so happy there's a place in the world where this is on TV, even if it's Norway. I am so proud of you guys, so awestruck by your amazingness, and so happy to have the chance to see it. I can't even put into words what a triumph I think this is.

Sexcellent Work!

Tue, 11/15/2011 - 21:14

I have to second carlisleorama on her sentiment that I couldn't be happier that somehwere in the world this vital cunt loving orgasmic information and visuals are on TV at last...and what lovely visuals you provided Ms Ross. Phew! That's some damn sexy sex ed. 

WOW!

Tue, 11/15/2011 - 21:55
Angelica (not verified)

WOW! Amazing. I really want to watch the whole show but I don't understand most of it. I LOVED the orgasm. I didn't start masturbating till after I found this website so I'm still learning. I bought a vibrator and have encouraged two of my friends to get one too. I've gotten many orgasms thanks to you guys but I feel like I'm forcing myself sometimes. After watching this, I'm ready to try this new technique out. I'm starting to love my vulva :) I'm so tired of hiding my sexual self and feeling ashamed. I wish I could climb to the highest building and shout about how much I love my clitoris. :)

AHHH!!! CARLIN!

Tue, 11/15/2011 - 22:18
Emily (not verified)

I am in love with your featured parts in this film. You and Betty did an amazing job!! The video was wonderful. You looked beautiful.

Em

Beautiful and brave work that

Wed, 11/16/2011 - 03:30

Beautiful and brave work that will introduce Betty's techniques to thousands of people, across Europe and beyond.

Awesome

Wed, 11/16/2011 - 19:52

Just wanted to echo the sentiments already presented and tell you how awesome that was.
I wish there were more accurate (and sexy, if you don't mind my saying) depictions of female sexuality and pleasure like in the world rather than usual garbage we're bombarded with in so much of today's pop culture.  
Congratulations to both of you!

Greetings from Norway

Wed, 11/16/2011 - 20:35
Annana (not verified)

Just saw the show on web-tv, and as I have been reading this website for a while I was giddy to see both you two ladies "in action" on the state channel in Norway. Beautifully done!
Very happy to know about the producer's fight for showing a vulva on television - about time for girls and women everywhere to learn to appreciate and love ones ladyparts.
The show is widely debated in Norway, but it's not particularly controversial. It's a good sex-ed show that both teenagers and adults could benefit from watching. Norwegians were all about Trekant on Twitter last night, most of them entertained and/or embarrassed, hiding behind pillows across the nation. Hopefully learing while doing so.
From what the girl in the show said at the end of the program she hadn't been able to come. Yet. Fingers crossed for her progress during the course of the show!
You ladies rock.

Thank you so much Carlin!

Thu, 11/17/2011 - 04:49

Your delight in your sexuality and your body positivity is a great example for the rest of us. You looked and sounded beautiful when you were coming. :)

Thank you both!

Thu, 11/17/2011 - 08:33
Jailbird (not verified)

I am so thrilled after watching yesterdays episode on web-TV and seeing how natural you both made the whole topic of the female orgasm! There has been some discussion in the media here in Norway over the last couple of days conserning your orgasm-scene and I was really surprised and happy when the network went ahead and sent the whole thing uncensored!
I'm one of the lucky ones who early (at the age of 11 actually) realized the great pleasures our "female parts" can provide,  and as a result loves sex both with others and by my self. But, many of my girlfriends have got big problems when it comes to the question of their own genitals and their own pleasure during sex. I so hope that your participation in yesterdays episode can help open up the Norwegian female population to the idea of pleasure through masturbation and "self-exploration". They just don't know what they're missing!

So, from the bottom of my heart, THANK YOU for showing all us Norwegian girls how to get to know our selvs a bit better! And for showing everyone how natural an orgasm is!

Thank you! Takk!

Thu, 11/17/2011 - 14:08
Annelis (not verified)

I am a Norwegian who watched the show on NRK yesterday, and it was just beautiful! Thank you so much. The young tv presenter was chosen out of a large number of young Norwegians-- this is her first show on tv, and only her second episode in the series, so, even though she is bound to become famous, I think she was a bit shy.. She was also chosen, as far as I know, to make appeal to minority youth in Norway. Just a little defence for the presenter....
Anyway, thank you so much for making Norwegian tv history! It was the big topic at my work place today, and everyone I spoke to loved it!

Bravo to Norway and Scandinavia

Thu, 11/17/2011 - 16:26

My heartfelt thanks to Norwegians (and to all Scandinavians) for being so open, sane, and healthful about sexuality. Such a contrast to the morbid fear and hatefulness of the human body and sex that we find in the United States! Someday, the insanity of religiously-based sexual repression will be defeated in the States, too. Norway has shown how honest, accurate, and unashamed sex education can and should be.

Betty, Carlin - You are

Thu, 11/17/2011 - 16:56

Betty, Carlin - You are amazing!
Thank you so much for everything you do

Making history

Thu, 11/17/2011 - 20:24
mymacaroni user (not verified)

I think this video has made it's way to history. If it was the first TV show, showing real woman's orgasm. Was it? Anyway, you looked and especially sounded beautiful during orgasm and beyond. Was it a strong orgasm? I start to doubt that I had more tiny orgasms than I previously thought. I think we should get more videos like this to see, depicting real natural orgasms. 

Wow

Fri, 11/18/2011 - 13:30

I had never seen a real woman's orgasm :-o ...thank you Carlin and Betty for showing us all. And jeez i do need to upgrade my masturbation techniques...and probably fetch some toys ;). 

I might watch TV if I lived in Norway

Sat, 11/19/2011 - 15:59

It is so awesome that you two were able to do this and share
your expertise on television! Norway must have much more interesting
programming than we do here in the US. Betty, I don't think you can continue to
say you are liberating women one orgasm at a time; you probably are liberating
THOUSANDS at a time now. I certainly hope this show is dubbed into English and
it is available to watch here; the whole show looks very interesting. Carlin,
my hat is off to you for having an orgasm with people standing around watching
and a camera filming you. You two are my heroes.

Betty and Carlin = My Heroes

Mon, 11/21/2011 - 02:41

So proud of both of you. It's really one of the absolute coolest things that you two went to Norway and did that!

I'm so proud of you Carlin, for that level of courage and commitment to the cause. You did an amazing job and I'm glad that you understand and appreciate the value of the role you played in that. You put your clit on the line and it paid off!

I watched this entire episode... despite not understanding a word of it.. with a group of 4 friends.. and we were all very interested by it.

Thank you again for what you two do. You'll never receive the amount of respect and admiration that you deserve.

You are my heroes. :) Legends! 

NRK tv: Trekant

Mon, 11/21/2011 - 14:22
Per Inge Selmo (not verified)

Hi, Carlin.
I am a Norwegian man, living in Norway. A have seen the NRK3 tv program "Trekant", where you was so courageous. As far as I have been able to see, there wasn't any outcry or rucus, after the program was sent. More discussions, etc., before, actually.
You showed much courage. You and Betty are pioneers, this was the first masturbation/orgasm shown on any national TV statiion in the world, ever. So, I am a little bit proud myself, being a Norwegian.
Please, with much respect and admiration, your vulva is BEATIFUL.
Wish you the very best,
Mr P.I. Selmo
(P.S.: The Norwegian title, Trekant, has several meanings. Triangle, threesome..)

I watched the episode online

Mon, 11/21/2011 - 16:28
Ingrid (not verified)

I watched the episode online since everybodys talking about it. I love the fact that somebody got around to actually do this. As we say; a thousand thank-yous! Its really sooo liberating to finally see the natural, non-photoshopped vulva (as you call it), on a natural woman, and her orgasm be the focus of attention on prime time, state-funded tv. Of course, I started exploring on my own, and it seems like I'm not the only one :) 
I think Trekant is a great show, giving valuable information about sex to young people. Some people are worried, you can see that emotions are usually running high while dabating it here in Norway.
I'm worried about the possibility that the youngsters will simply be bombarded with idol-myths that they feel obligated to live up too. I've seen a lot of insecurity in both men and women when I was younger, I believe the majority of young people are very influenced. 95 % of young norwegians have internet, and 95% report that they shave their pussies. I dont have a slightes difficulty labeling the average norwegian as having a greater part of social anxiety, fear of not living up to potentials and such. Maybe it comes from our history of isolation? Combined with the demands of the idols I think it could be a potentially pretty harmful cocktail for young developing sexualities to swallow. But only if they come to identify with the idol of shaved pussies, big dicks, no labia sticking out, a surpressed woman screaming yes when HE comes. People are not like that. What you want is not that. 

Women, dont let anybody tell you how to behave or look like - be true to yourself! (and start having orgasms for chrissake)

Thank you so much

Mon, 11/21/2011 - 16:57
Lupi (not verified)

for filming this. After watching the episode I just had to masturbate and finally managed to use the rock n roll technique the right way. I thought the hip movement had to be bigger , so it was good to see you, Carlin,do it. Usually I have tension orgasms too but this time was different and my whole body was shaking and trembling. Wow!
I also liked the scene where they had the guys with different angle penises walk in. Brilliant! 
I wish the young actress will have her orgasms soon.

Very important lessons in this for women!

Tue, 11/22/2011 - 14:59

Important lessons here - that the orgasm is not about romance or possession or drama or beauty or lack thereof and that it is totally possessed by the user! There for our pleasure - no strings attached and no need to buy products!
Having been  bringing myself to orgasm for over 50 years - I had always done a method that required tension. But today tried this rocking rhythmic version of letting the orgasm come to me. Absolutely the best and filled a void that has opened up since menopause which made me wonder if orgasm would ever be as fulfilling as it was when I was younger. With this method it most certainly DOES reach the high notes!
Thanks ro Betty and Carlin for the important lessons and gifts they are giving to women all over the world. 

wooo!

Thu, 11/24/2011 - 12:27
tiglet (not verified)

I was so excited to watch this for so many reasons; the milestone that it is having the female orgasm broadcast on tv, having female genitalia seen in a natural, appreciative way and, most importantly to me, from a woman's perspective. Also letting more of the world know about the amazing work of Dodson and Ross! 

I live in the UK and and often find myself so frustrated at sex education here. For example on BBC Radio One in July they had a special sex show on their "Sunday Surgery" (where listeners can call in and ask for advice on anything from relationships to depression) I was looking forwards to listening to it as they normally give quite sound, down-to-earth advice, however I was shocked when a girl emailed in saying she had never had an orgasm, and the resident doctor's response was "some women are simply unable to orgasm biologically but that doesn't mean you can't enjoy sex..." I was screaming at the radio, "masturbate, masturbate!! go on dodsonandross.com! don't consign her to a life without orgasms!" So irresponsible given that millions of listeners, and mainly young people, tune in to the show. I could go on all day about other equally bad moments in the show but will restrain myself!
love you guys xxxx

wow!

Thu, 11/24/2011 - 12:39
tiglet (not verified)

May I also just say that, before watching this clip, I considered myself to be quite sexually mature (not sure if that is the right word!) for 27, happy to openly talk about sex with my partner and others, to experiment, talk about and practice masturbation etc, however I definately learnt something new today! Betty I love you even more now!
Like Carlin I had always had tension orgasms since I was about 11. I have tried breathing more in the past year whilst masturbating and I think I fooled myself into thinking I had broken the habit. But, after watching the tv program I decided to give Betty's tecnhique a go and it blew my mind!!!
It took me longer to orgasm, I wasn't sure if I was going to, then I thought I had but it was quite mild so thought the technique hadn't really worked for me, then I realised that wasn't it, carried on masturbating and a while later....wowww! Full body shakes, best O yet!! Thank you so much! I also felt much more satiated afterwards, whereas often after a tension orgasm I want another straightaway and feel like something's missing... seems like it was!
xxxx

P.s In retrospect, the only other times I have had orgasms like this have been after smoking weed when I guess I was much more relaxed and also more in tune with my body and sensations.. anyone else found this?

WOW!

Fri, 12/02/2011 - 10:59

Beautifully done!

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