Every woman should penetrate her own vagina for the first time. Clitoral stimulation with vaginal penetration - the combination orgasm - is orgasmic bliss.
All women can orgasm with the right kind of clitoral stimulation. Practice these steps and enjoy multiple orgasms.
There is nothing wrong with being celibate.
Penetration is a skill and you can work up to full penetration with a penis.
It's my belief that If you have masturbated to orgasm you are no longer a virgin!
I think you had a fast come but didn't recognize it, and that's when clitty shuts down to recover after firing off all 8,000 nerve endings.
Most important is to enjoy what feels good and communicate when something is uncomfortable.
I recommend having safe sex with a variety of girls to learn what you are looking for.
Water based lubes are to be used with a latex product like condoms then oil is best.
Since you are orgasmic with masturbation and have self penetrated your vagina, "virgin" no longer applies.