Am I Promiscous Because I Have Daddy Issues?

Fri, 03/18/2016 - 12:48
Submitted by Carlin Ross

We are all just sexual.

let go of the rules

Sun, 03/20/2016 - 05:02

Sexuality is such a very personal appetite and one which is so very bound up in artificial society imposed rules and regulations that it's impossible to generalise.

It's true that women's sexuality has been suppressed and oppressed for generations, whilst men's sexuality has been and continues to be celebrated and glorified. Clearly both the "chaste" woman and "rampant" man stereotypes are damaging fictions.

But it just isn't possible to say that women are more sexual than men with any authority. It can be true for individuals but not every woman Some women, some of the time may well be more sexual than their male partners and vice versa but it wouldn't be sensible or desirable to replace one set of sterotypes with another. The idea of the sexually voracious or out of control woman has been used to justify all sorts of social controls over the years. The virgin and whore labels are both used against women time and time again.

We need to let go of the rules, the idea of what we "should" behave like sexually and work towards being ourselves.

PS A friend once told me that the most important thing he felt he could do as a father for his daughter was to love and respect her mother, to model the kind of relationship that you want her to grow up and expect for herself.

All young women need to believe that they are worth the best that life can offer, that their opinions and decisions have weight and value and that's true of sex as much as anything else in life.