Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross
Better Orgasms. Better World.
I'm having trouble keeping a good rhythm with my boyfriend while we are having sex. He will be going at a good pace and I'm getting into it and then all of a sudden he will go really fast and then later suddenly change to penetrating really slow. It's just all over the place and starts to turn me off after awhile. I've tried talking to him about it, but nothing has changed. Do you have any advice for another way of trying to explain it to him or anything I can do?
Thank you!
Dear J,
For those new to my blog, I write on my sex life, in erotica form, because many of
us need only read of an example of what really is possible or that
they'd never thought of. It so often lights a desire inside to "want to
feel that." To want to learn how to make sex better through sex education, consulting, and coaching, maybe for the
first time in their lives.
I was blazing with turn-on. My supercurvy love pulled her knees up near her big round D cups and I scooted a pillow under her equally round hips. On my knees, I touched my precome-covered cockhead to the sensitive inside of her vulva and caressed.
Ever since I heard you can "poo" during a sexual relation i am scared it will happen to me !!! I only recently started having sex with my boyfriend and I am so scared it will happen to me and he will be grossed- out!!! please help me everytime he penetrates me i feel the pressure and i am so scared i have to stop !!!
HI Betty
First off I want to say that I admire your life's work. I have seen your artwork in books and I am familiar with your crusading to make our culture less prudish. Thank you for your efforts.
The question I have is as follows: My partner and now husband of 6 years has told me recently that he is not satisfied with our sex. It is not because he cannot orgasm, because he always does orgasm. He is not psychologically satisfied with our sex because he says he wants to be able to "slam" into me hard and fast. He says that he feels that he has to hold back and not loose himself in the moment. He says that this holding back is not fun for him.
It's the #1 question so we had to answer it:
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