Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

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Picture a boy who lives in a rough neighbourhood. He grows up with very little opportunity or hope. He grows up fighting. He may likely have even been hit by adults or peers in his childhood. He's full of aggression as an adolescent but he puts it into a passion. Boxing.

He starts winning. He makes money. He's a champion. Hundreds of thousands of people come to watch him beat another human and celebrate violence. People get hurt, people sometimes die and almost always sustain serious injuries. Yet he is respected and what he does is respected. When he becomes a father he will be proud of his profession. Lets say his name is Micky Ward but it could be any number of boxer's stories.

It was going on way too many months since I’d given myself a nice big yowling orgasm. This was especially serious since we recently filmed a Bodysex workshop and during the shoot, I was unable to come. I was so exhausted and stressed out I couldn’t get off so I finally just gave up. Worst of all was remembering that during past Bodysex workshops, my group orgasms were always some of my best.

Saturday September 17, the day after our closing party at Carlin and Geof’s apartment and I am one exhausted, happy and very fortunate octogenarian to have had the opportunity to document a workshop that I ran for 25 years. Then to have it be spectacularly successful is a dream come true.

I’ve finally learned my lesson with the Anthony Weiner incident of texting a photo of his penis on Twitter. BFD! 

This hard working Congressman is one of the few Democrats who speaks his mind unlike the spineless shits who cave into Republican demands. My response to these uproars over some poor public persona getting raked over the coals for a moment of sexual pleasure that strayed beyond marital monogamous sex is to simply ignore it. Now I realize that’s the wrong approach.

Thousands of years before the time of Christ, the cannabis hemp plant was Earth's largest agricultural crop that produced the majority of fiber, fabric, lighting oil, paper, incense and medicines. Hemp was also the primary source of essential food, oil and protein for humans and animals.

From 1776 until 1937, hemp was a major American crop that supplied textiles, paper and medicines. This hardy plant grows 6 to 8 feet tall in one season and sends oxygen into our atmosphere. Using hemp could slow down deforestation that also provides our atmosphere with oxygen along with all the other material goods. So we might wonder why America would declare war on such a beneficial plant.

I deal with your problem all the time and my answer begins with, “Accept her just the way she is.” Do not put any pressure on her to have sex. Other than cannabis, the only other drug that would create sexual desire in a woman would be to duplicate the early romantic phase of falling in love. However, I doubt the pharmaceutical companies will ever come up with a little pink pill that simulates Romantic Love. Believe me that would revitalize a woman’s sexual interest. That’s when we wanted to find our very own Mr. Right, fall in love, get married and settle down to raise a family. It was all so fanciful and theoretical with little to do with any reality.

For every smart man who has ever asked, “What do women want?” the sexual desires of each wish list will differ from woman to woman and will depend upon her age. When I was a romance junkie in my early twenties, I went along with whatever kind of sex each boyfriend did as long as he was cute, promised to only have sex with me and said he loved me.

When I got married I was more concerned with financial security and a solid relationship than sex. After I got divorced and began logging in sexual experiences with different men, I was able to name several things I enjoyed about sex. By the time I reached forty I was a sexually sophisticated woman who looked for specific qualities to indicate whether or not a man would be a good lover.

When it comes to creating or watching sexual material, we are still debating what is acceptable to view, create or to enjoy. The porn wars rage on while most guys secretly masturbate to what turns them on while too many women want to censor pornography. Most people will agree that sex is a very personal matter, but now that sexual imagery has become so prevalent with internet porn available on our computers 24/7, I’d say like it or not, porn is here to stay.

First let me say this: I am so sick of answering questions on this topic when in my heart I believe it’s mostly crap! And no one has the guts to say it out loud. I clearly remember stating in one essay that the fact researchers didn’t know what women were squirting was the fly in female ejaculation.

Recently a man asked me what I thought the fluid consisted of and one more time, I Googled “female ejaculate” wondering if there was any new information. Lo and behold I discovered Cecil Adams, “The smartest man in the world.” Here’s what Cecil had to say.

“The problem you have discussing a topic like this is that people's responses generally break down as follows:

· 10 percent say the ejaculate is urine.

· 10 percent say it's something else.