Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

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I am 23 years old and have been married for 6 years and I am still kind of young and learning new feeling in that area everytime. I have never had an orgasm and would love to find out how to have one. I have tryed using a vibrator and dildo and intercourse and i just cant seem to find that spot. can you please help.

I have never had any feeling inside my vagina. I never have since I started having sex. I can feel that something is there but no pleasure at all, not even a little. And I know for a fact that it is NOT the guy. I have had a few different sex partners over the years of different shapes, sizes, and performances. I can have a mind blowing orgasm by playing with my clit but never from inside.

Hi Betty,Hi Betty,

i'm 26 years old, female. I have a bf and he's very loving and caring partner trying to do everything to satisfy me. But i am not able to reach orgasm during intercourse, even though it feels very great. I have reached a few in the past, last one maybe a year ago. about half a year ago i started to masturbate with a vibrator by stimulating my clitoris and i am perfectly able to have orgasms in this way. but nothing during an intercourse.

Dear Betty,

I am 23 and enjoying experimenting with my great new (& first) boyfriend. I do reach orgasm by myself (clit) and as well when he is stimulating it (finger/dick), but I don't feel anything "good" inside my vagina while having sex.

I'm 37, mother of a teen, I've been with my partner for 2 years and I'm hurting him. He tells me there's a dry spot, a "tooth", a hard part inside my vaginal canal on the side somewhere that rubs him raw sometimes.

And it is only sometimes. It usually happens when he's been stimulating my G-spot vigorously, before sex. When he enters me there's then a spot that isn't as smooth or lubricated as the rest and his penis ends up sore after thrusting against it. It can take days or even weeks for the sore spot to clear up.

But this patch is not there all the time. I can't feel it - he can with his fingers from his vantage point, but I can't reach it from mine.

As far as I know, I have never had a G-spot orgasm nor have I ever ejaculated. However, I do know many of my orgasms have been deep, powerful and satisfying. I've also enjoyed those little ten minute maintenance orgasms that release tension. There is no such thing as having a bad orgasm- they all put a smile on my face. Maybe the vaginal orgasms that I managed to squeak out in my twenties would classify as G's. Some were quite accidental and non-repeatable. Others required a thirty minute erection owned by a handsome young man who promised he'd only have sex with me. Oh yes, I had to get on top and Ride ‘em Cowgirl, which wasn't easy in the fifties and early sixties. They called us "ball busters" back then.

Hello, I am super embarrassed to even ask this, but ok I am 20 years old and I lost my virginity when I was 16, and I have had 7 partners and still none of them have been able to give me an orgasm, I have had plenty orgasms through the clitoris through masturbation, but never have I been able to reach one during intercourse through my g spot. I think I am just scared and do not let it happen, but I am sooo sexually frustrated.