Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross
Better Orgasms. Better World.
I had an interesting conversation with some women at lunch
the other day. Teresa, a friend,
mentioned that if her 21 year old son and his girlfriend came home for the
holidays, that she would not permit them to sleep in the same bed. When I asked
why not, she said, “It just wouldn’t be respectful.” I challenged her on this and a lively
discussion of sexual mores developed. I found myself saying that I am
sex-positive, and am in favor of young people having sex and enjoying it. Some
of the women in the room said they might allow their sons, but certainly not
their daughters. I unabashedly talked about my own daughters, how I gladly took
them to obtain birth control when they became sexually active as teenagers, and
So I was reading around on the internet tonight and found 2 stories that don't seem related but upon closer inspection, may well be. One was about stopping the spread of HIV and taking care of the patients who already have this disease. The other was about the tv show Toddlers and Tiaras. It got me to thinking how fucked up society is. Parents are willing to dress up their daughters as sex symbols but balk at the idea of real sex education. Mothers who corset their daughters and make them wear false boobs would probably shit a brick if these same daughters were caught innocently playing with their vulvas. I think these mothers should stop pimping out their daughters for cash prizes and spend some money on getting themselves a good vibrator and having some orgasms.
I am a 45yr old male with aspergers who has never had a girlfriend or sex.
No, not that kind of coming. We keep getting young men, boys in my mind newly diagnosed with HIV. Boys young enough to be my sons, boys who will have to face the kind of health monitoring of people in their 50's. Boys, some of whom don't seem to think that HIV is a big deal because now with drugs like Atripla, it's easy to take medication. It makes me so sad and so angry. We also get women as well, in fact I am tempted to say that our male to female ratio is almost 50/50. Although the women are usually older (there are many grandmothers with this disease) and unfortunately quite a few contracted this from their husbands. But it seems like it is running rampant with the boys. Safe sex has to be taught and not just for the heteronormative model. Abstinence only sex ed is a joke!
I'm young and gay in the south and just can't seem to find a girl to have a relationship with in person. I've done the internet thing, and that hasn't worked out for me, especially recently, as I just broke up with a girlfriend of one year because of stupid things I did. I'd like to have at least one opportunity to try it in real life. But my standards are irrepressibly specific and I just can't get around this. Agh ><
I'm 34 and about a month ago I had my first experience with penetration with a guy who was an ex-boyfriend from 3 years ago. not really sure what to call him now, but that's another story.
At this moment, I have to say that I am kinda pissed at porn because it totally skewed what sex woiud be like. I've gone so far as to subscribe to Playgirl, only to find that they're probably faking it. I've read that on about 25% of women orgasm in sex....I konw that I'm a newbie, so I just need to practice...but really, porn? really??? I had no idea it was that bad.
May is mastaurbation month, yay! So I had some time to myself yesterday and decided to take some time and make a date with my best lover. Even though I had allotted myself a half hour, I was completely finished in 15 minutes. I realized that is the problem for most women in my situation. We're so used to multitasking and getting things done in a short amount of time that we can't even make a date with ourselves without it turning into another thing to rush through. Thankfully I'm an efficient person in all areas of my life so I was satisfied, but afterwards I wondered what made me rush so much. Partnersex is like that too, no wait, partnersex usually takes a little longer but it doesn't happen near enough. If I have some spare time, I want to fuck.
On some of the dating sites I get e-mails from fake beautiful women so you join up and then never get a reply from them. Why hasn't the law done something about this. Very few woman have got to see the real me. That psychology student at group therapy got to know me abit. She sat very close to me and stayed behind after the session especially to speak to me. She was so close that I thought she was going to sit on my lap. The board must have thought she had done wrong because she told me she was going to be reprimanded. She was obviously there for study and I was her lab rat. She was there to shine on the pheasants. Her assignment probabily was to befriend one of the patients and right a report. Career woman look down upon me although i'm tall because i'm a lesser status person.
On some of the dating sites I get e-mails from fake beautiful women so you join up and then never get a reply from them. Why hasn't the law done something about this. Very few woman have got to see the real me. That psychology student at group therapy got to know me abit. She sat very close to me and stayed behind after the session especially to speak to me. She was so close that I thought she was going to sit on my lap. The board must have thought she had done wrong because she told me she was going to be reprimanded. She was obviously there for study and I was her lab rat. She was there to shine on the pheasants. Her assignment probabily was to befriend one of the patients and right a report. Career woman look down upon me although i'm tall because i'm a lesser status person.