Bodysex is More Relevant with Each Passing Day

Fri, 07/14/2017 - 08:19
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Aside from watching our President manhandle the first lady of France while telling her "she's in good shape", we experienced two major events this week:

A one-trillion ton ice berg broke off of the Antarctic peninsula much sooner than any climate change scientist predicted AND

The permafrost at the North Pole melted flooding Norway's Doomsday seed archive. This is significant because the permafrost holds 2x the amount of carbon currently in our atmostphere. We've had three mass extinctions - one caused by an asteroid and two by the melting of the permafrost.

No One Wants Side Dick

Thu, 07/02/2015 - 08:38
Submitted by Carlin Ross

It's swimsuit season and I thought this video of men trying on women's swimsuits was appropriate.  What's sexy on a woman looks ridiculous on a man but I wonder how much of that is conditioning (women are objects men are actors).

I love the second guy who says he feels like 20 pounds of shit in a 10 pound bag.  That's exactly what it feels like to wear a bikini.

We've Been Changing the World for Centuries

Wed, 12/17/2014 - 09:02
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Here are some of the great women scientists that history has cleverly forgotten. I think it's important to piece together our past so that young women know we've been changing the world and leading the way for centuries.

Rosalind Franklin (1920-1958) - British biophysicist and X-ray crystallographer who made critical contributions to the understanding of the fine molecular structures of DNA, RNA, viruses, coal, and graphite.

Marie Skłodowska-Curie (1867-1934) - Polish and naturalized-French physicist and chemist, famous for her pioneering research on radioactivity.

Chien-Shiung Wu (1912-1997) - Chinese American physicist with expertise in the techniques of experimental physics and radioactivity.

About The Trip or About The Orgasm?

Thu, 09/11/2014 - 06:56
Submitted by Eric Amaranth

One debate that you hear if you're listening to different sex teaching professionals is whether you should be goal-oriented with your orgasms to have bigger and better ones, or not care about whether you have one and just enjoy the ride whether you have an orgasm or not. You get people who are divided in their opinions and stay that way. My position is they both are important.

Let's take the first one. Goal-orientation toward having orgasms and then having more of them in the same sex session, having bigger orgasms, different kinds of orgasms, and combining orgasms to name a few of the directions you can go with making your sex life a more sophisticated and exciting one. The reasons why goal-orientation is good and needed is:

Because Women Were Written Out of Art History

Fri, 01/24/2014 - 10:37
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Betty went from artist to activist because of her frustration with misogyny in the art world.  We still have 33 canvases and 200 drawings locked away in storage waiting to be exhibited.

I love this Guardian piece on women in art.  We may have been written out of art history but that doesn't mean that we weren't creating round the clock waiting for the world to change.  I think we're here:

Vintage Female Mechanics

Mon, 03/04/2013 - 15:37
Submitted by Carlin Ross

This is a picture of Grace Hurd, Evelyn Harrison and Corinna DiJiulian, with Grace Wagner in their car mechanics class (Central High School, Washington, DC, February 9, 1927).

Notice how they're wearing heeled shoes with their mechanic's suits. When I was a little girl, I begged my mother for a pair to sneakers to play in. I had two pairs of mary janes - one for school and one for play.

Eventually, she conceded and I got my kicks.

Saying Yes to Sexual Growth

Mon, 10/31/2011 - 13:44
Submitted by Eric Amaranth

New female clients, married or in a long-term relationship, tell me how heavy their burden is with frustration and dread vis a vie sex with their partner.

There has been an accumulation of resentments over the years, mistakes made by the both of them. The frustration comes from trying so many times and hoping this time will be the one for great sex, but the same outcome happens once again-- no orgasm. They want better sex...amazing sex, but negativity is often what looms in their minds.

Dangerous Toxins From GMO Plants Found in Women & Fetuses

Sat, 06/04/2011 - 10:40
Submitted by Eric Amaranth

Firstly, I had a great last two days with clients and their progress. From a married couple who saw me six months ago talking to me saying how they've fallen in love again and can't wait to have sex to a present client learning more about how to make her and his orgasm stronger with very simple methods. I'll blog on that next.

Does Semen Make Women Happy? Plus, How I Bareback Safely

Mon, 03/21/2011 - 14:11
Submitted by Eric Amaranth

I've mentioned in previous blog posts how I'm not always impressed by scientific studies of sex and the conclusions they draw. However, there are studies that do impress me and are a benefit to my sex life and those of my sex coaching clients. This article on the biochemical make-up of semen effecting women's moods and combatting depression symptoms is interesting.

All-Women's Self-Pleasuring Soiree THIS Saturday!

Thu, 03/03/2011 - 12:42
Submitted by Eric Amaranth

My good friend and fellow sex teacher, Tallulah Sulis, is putting on her first selfloving-focused sex party for women only in Oakland Hills, CA this Saturday.

This reminds me of my mentor Betty's Bodysex groups she did during the 80's and early 90's. The Bodysex groups were education-based sexual gatherings of women where Betty guided the group through a wide variety of activities from group discussions to live vulva viewings, sex education, female masturbation teaching, and finally a group masturbation circle on the final day where the women would apply the skills learned first hand and share in the group's sex energy with all its sounds and sights.

Combating Violence Against Women - French Style

Wed, 12/01/2010 - 15:23
Submitted by Anonymous

Many years ago, I had a co-worker who frequently showed up for work covered in bruises - a gift from her drug abusing boyfriend. These bruises were huge, all over her body, and were as black as his rage must have been.

I begged her to leave him, offered to store her furniture, and spent countless hours trying to help her problem solve her situation(part-time job, no money, alcohol abuse, and a boyfriend who mistook her for a punching bag). It was to no avail. Everything I recommended,  she shot down. She was too afraid.

What Does a Sex Life Coach "Do" With Their Clients?

Sun, 11/07/2010 - 13:33
Submitted by Eric Amaranth

Okay everyone, finish reading this blog post before you click to the pages I reference. I write this to make it more clear for people what precisely I and my mentor Betty Dodson do for our clients more effectively than a sex therapist or sexologists. Plus, how sex studies can be flawed and why, from my perspective.

Here's that article on www.yourtango.com, a sex and relationships site I'm a part of, where a scientific study determines new findings on the parts of women's bodies that men are attracted to, plus women with high heels and long legs vs flats, produced some skewed findings. It's not the first time by far that I've seen sexology drop the ball. Read the comments section for my responses to it.

My Thoughts on a Woman's Experiences Dating Women

Sun, 09/26/2010 - 11:00
Submitted by Eric Amaranth

Here is an article from TheFrisky.com where the author, Nikki Dowling, lists the major things she's learned about lesbians and her girlfriend in general after having left heterosexuality for a lesbian sex life and relationship.

I like her quote that states, "It's the individual that makes relationships differ-- not the gender." Her article, by the way, is written much like I prefer to write about sex and relationships. It gives readers a bit of an insider's perspective that they'd otherwise remain ignorant of.

You Want the Nice Guy & the Bad Boy Rolled Into One

Sat, 09/04/2010 - 12:22
Submitted by Eric Amaranth

I have been getting a lot of feedback from a lot of different straight women along the way telling me they want the nice guy AND "bad boy" all in the same man. Clients have told me this, past and present lovers, their friends, my female friends, and their friends too. They're tired and angry with having to choose between one of two men. Door number one: he'll be a best friend, do the dishes every night, give you chicken noodle soup when you're sick, and key to it all, have the capability for open-hearted, sweet interactions, affection and hopefully father your children.

Door number two: he's hot, super-confident in every way with you socially and sexually, he makes his desire for you very clear in a deep voice and then backs it up when the time comes, and the key to this door is passionate, competant, devouring-you fucking of one sort or another.