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35, and a Virgin....

Hello everyone,

This may be hard for some to believe, but I'm a 35 year old Virgin...just too shy for my own good I guess. Never really got involved in the dating scene in school, and now don't know too many people outside of work. That's fine with me though, I'm very happy pleasuring myself.

I would describe myself as bi-curious, love pussy for sure, but wonder what sucking a cock or having one in my ass would feel like. I feel pretty good about my body, the only thing that bothers me is i'm a REALLY hairy guy... back, chest, balls, everywhere. I'd fit in great in the 70's, but everyone's into the sleek hairless look these days. It'd take me a week to get all that off!

Masturbation problems

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Sun, 05/17/2009 - 20:03
Submitted by Psypomp

Hi! I have a question about (female) masturbation. I've been masturbating for about 2 years now, and have had no problems having orgasms through clitoral stimulation and occasionally oral sex. The only problem is that I tend to be a little rough with myself, and can only climax if my muscles are extremely tensed up. Although this gives my glutes and leg muscles a nice workout, I'm afraid I'm mashing my little nub too hard.

Is there a way to reach orgasm without all this tension? Should I just be more patient with myself? I generally climax within 5 minutes or so.

What Do You Think About Virginity These Days, Eric?

Wed, 02/11/2009 - 19:46
Submitted by Eric Amaranth

Hello Eric,

I am a virgin. I have some experience with masturbation and general making out but never have had intercourse. I am reaching my 40's and I was thinking it could be time to try with safe sex. I am overwhelmed and so tense when I tried last time that the male part will not go in at all. Not sure if because my part is so small (due to non use) or if the guy's part is so big I get overwhelmed and nothing will happen....any recommendations? Appreciate your comments.

By the way, what do you think of virginity these days?????

Masturbating Virgin Asks: Am I Frigid?

Mon, 01/05/2009 - 19:14
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dr. Betty-

I wasn't brought up in an overly religious household, or made to go to church, or told that anything sexual was wrong. I masturbate almost every night and have wonderful fantasies constantly when I'm not occupied with something else. But I am a virgin still, and I'm starting to think there might be something wrong with that.

Need Kissing, Masturbating, & Partner Sex Pointers

Thu, 12/11/2008 - 16:30
Submitted by Betty Dodson

hi betty.

i'm young, a freshman in highschool, and it seems like everyone but me is so experienced! i don't even know how to kiss right, if there's even a right way to. all i can think about is sex but i can't figure out how to get rid of my insecurities and get started. first off, i'm scared that a guy will take one look down south and run. how do i know what it's supposed to look like? second, i masterbate using that pressure thing you guys explained, is it bad to keep doing that or should i step it up a notch? i've thought about fingers but i feel like they're gonna be bitten off if i stick them in there. haha. third, what do guys expect?

HELP! 2 Virgins About to Have First Time Sex

Wed, 08/13/2008 - 19:50
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Betty,

I'm a young woman from Romania and I'm currently reading Orgasms for Two and I just HAD to stop to write you an email. While I don't agree with some of the radical ideas on marriage and love in your book (but then I'm only 25) I found what I read so far to be ...liberating. I know your inbox is probably flooded with emails so I'll keep this quick but still hope for an answer.

Will I Die a Virgin?

Tue, 04/01/2008 - 04:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I am a 42 year-old female, single and I have never had any type of sexual activity except for some light petting in high school. I just don't feel the sexual urges that my friends talk about. But, my biggest fear is that I will never have a sexual experience before I die. I also worry about this a lot because I feel I may be a freak of nature. I have started reading erotica novels and find myself stimulated at the scenarios I read about, so I know I have some urges. But the reason I am writing is that I am thinking about experimenting with masturbating.

How Do I Relax During Sex and Orgasm?

Tue, 04/01/2008 - 04:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I'm a bit of a late-bloomer - 26 years old, still a virgin, never really dated, but just starting to fool around with this great guy. Now, a virgin I may be, but I am no stranger to self-pleasure. This, however, is the first time I'm playing around with someone else. Whether he's going down or manually stimulating me, I get really close to the big O, but never quite make it. I don't know what to do or how to make myself relax. Not to mention, I can tell it's frustrating him too.

Will I Ever Pop My Cherry?

Wed, 06/15/2005 - 04:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I have a situation I hope you can provide some feedback on. I will be turning 21 here within the month and have never been in any serious relationships nor have I had sex. My dating life is abysmal - I have gone out on dates a few times with several guys throughout the past 5 years but have never actually dated a guy or have become involved with someone. It's very embarrassing to admit this to friends, family, potential boyfriends, etc so I just kinda sidestep the questions.

I have been doing a lot of soul searching lately and I know:

1. I am not gay - I am very attracted to men and though women are beautiful creatures, there is something about a man that hits all the right buttons

Can a Guy Tell You're a Virgin?

Sat, 07/05/2003 - 04:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi there Dr. Betty,

I'm in my mid 20's & for various reasons I'm still a virgin. This may sound like a stupid question but would a guy be able to tell I was a virgin when I have sex for the first time? Would it be obvious or am I better off telling him - being a virgin in your mid 20's makes you seem a bit like an anti social freak.

Thanks, D

Dear D,