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When Sex Hurts

Mon, 11/14/2011 - 14:10
Submitted by LilithLand

Some years ago, I had a friend confide in me that sex hurt. And we're not talking postcoital rug burns here but intense pain. From what I could gather, it sounded like vaginismus, which is an involuntary spasming of the vagina at penetration. At the time, I didn't know what to tell her.

Naturally, this was having a profoundly negative impact on her sex life with her husband. But she didn't seem particularly comfortable discussing the issue, and we later grew apart. So, I have no clue what happened to her. She was not alone in her suffering. According to stats, between 8 and 21% of women suffer from sexual pain disorder - a poorly understood, largely ignored variant of female sexual dysfunction.

I Have Vaginismus - Need Help Becoming Sexual

Mon, 02/07/2011 - 14:25
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr Betty,

I am a 20 year old female who until this morning had never masturbated and completely neglected my genital area all my life, thanks to my upbringing which made me believe it is 'sinful' to even think of touching myself. As of today after coming across an interview on youtube in which you were i guest and finding your site, i am now on the road to learning to love myself. I masturbated for the first time this morning and it was lovely even if it was short and i am yet to find what i would really love.

Is It a Vaginal Infection Or Is It All In My Mind?

Mon, 01/17/2011 - 22:19
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I have a question about vaginal infection and wish to get your expert answer. Thank You.

Doctor, I suspect myself having vaginal infection since January 2009... I visited doctor and she gave me a type of cream which called candid cream and some fluconazole 200mg tablet, the doctor also advised me to wash my genital area with salt water. However, It seem din recover after applied the cream and have the medicine...

How to Heal Your Vulvodynia

Tue, 12/14/2010 - 15:36
Submitted by Carlin Ross

MTV's True Life episode "I Can't Have Sex" about women suffering from vulvodynia, PFD, and vaginismus inspired me to read the curetogether.org ebook Vulvodynia Heroes Alexandra Carmichael sent me months ago.

There are so many wrinkles to "vulvodynia" and not one clear cause or treatment. What I love about this ebook is that it's made up of first person accounts from women who've healed themselves. Somewhere it their stories you may find your own cure. Here's my interview with Alexandra:

What is curetogether.org? Who started the site?

Could Painful Penetration Be Emotional?

Wed, 07/22/2009 - 20:29
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dr. Betty,

I don't believe much in any "diagnosis" but the vaginismus that developed, probably after sexual abuse, just does not seem to clear. In spite of "practicing" with vibrators etc. Clitoral orgasm is fine. I have the feeling that the condition is both physical and has an emotional companion :fear.

Your thoughts please.

Dear LV,

When I Masturbate, My Muscles Spasm

Tue, 04/28/2009 - 15:38
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,
I started masturbating at around the age of 11 (by grinding against a bunched up towel!). From what I remember I never orgasmed from this, but it felt good. I went through a period between 16-21 where I rarely, rarely touched myself. I was put on antidepressants a year ago which actually gave me a libido for the first time in YEARS, but still no orgasm. I've been off antidepressants now around a couple of months.

My problem is that whenever I stimulate my clitoris - either by vibrator, on top during sex, or by very rigorous hand rubbing (I could only get to this point of sensation with my hands once), I get to the stage where I'm just beginning to get lost in the rhythm of it when I get spasms in my limbs (not my vagina from what I can tell) and a sort of painful oversensitivity, so much so that I can continue touching myself. I feel no sense of release, just this sudden pain. Do you have any idea, Betty, what might be causing this pain?