Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross
Better Orgasms. Better World.
Hi Betty,
I'm writing because I am worried about the size and development of my vulva. My clit, when fully aroused, is smaller than an apple seed and my inner labia are so minisucule that they barely rise above the surrounding tissue. I was anorexic from about 12-16, and then from 16-23 heavily abused alcohol and drugs. I am have been clean and sober for about 2 years now and just had my first orgasm about 6 months ago. I am wondering if my past behavior could have pemanently stunted my sex organs or if this size is normal.
My lover Kristina asked me when last we were together, lounging in her bed, "So many men want to run a race with their dicks straight to the vagina. How was it that you went a different way?"
It made me think of what is said among some men: don't bother learning
how to make it feel good for her because then she'll fall in love with
you, or get attached, and then be a big pain in the ass.
That's uniquely inhumane, I must say.
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-E.A
Had to put this up asap. Was so hot. The Butterfly sex toy by Vibratex came through inside my lover, the super-curvy Olivia, with flying colors:
To call the totality of a woman's sex organ, inside and out, a vagina, is not accurate and puts to a halt advanced understanding. It is no more correct to call the penis "a urethra" than it is to refer to the female sex organ as simply the vagina. The vagina is the birth canal. A single part out of many that make up a woman's "sex."
Anatomists created a name for the totality of the action-part of the male reproductive organs: penis. No single word has ever been coined that isnt a slang term for that which refers to everything inside and outside a woman's... pussy. For lack of a better term? We can say vulva. However, that encapsulates all the external parts but it leaves out the internal parts. As it stands in our culture's present state, we say vagina as a stand-in, but that leaves out the clitoris, urethral opening, mons pubis, and labia minora and majora.
I was always self-conscious of my open cunt for some strange reason I still can't fathom in my marriage. This was until I had some sessions with a couple of young guys I got to know after we moved to the country. Wild they were - these guys would be literally all over me. One would be kissing my mouth passionately while a second would suck my nipples, both fingering my cunt until I just about exploded. I found the wider I opened my legs the more intense was my pleasure (and theirs). It wasn't long before I decided some decoration was in order to exhibit and accentuate my pleasure centre, hence the photograph of my piercing. Yes, this does enhance my excitement in both display and sensitivity!
When I was growing up my mother taught me to refer to my vagina as my "cookie." As in, "make sure to wipe both your cookie and your tushie after going to the bathroom." I started sex play with my friends at 6 and had my first orgasm at 12 from masturbating, and then at 16 came for the first time with another person when my friend Paul went down on me for the first time...but all that time I could never find a word I liked for what I had down there.