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Hello,

I am a man 37 years old, married for 13 years, but lately I have this desire to have a threesome with two girls. Is this normal? What should I do?

Dear I,

Yes, your desire for a threesome is quite normal. It's the favorite fantasy for most men. The first thing to do would be to discuss this with your wife. She might also be interested. If not, then you can always pay two sex professionals to act out your desire. Or simply keep it as your fantasy material for some hot masturbation.

Dr. Betty

This is exactly how I feel.  I'm so excited about our trip to Norway.  NRK Television is filming Betty doing a private session with Norway's most popular reality tv star for their series Threesome. 

Betty and I went shopping to coordinate her outfit - she's wearing all black.  Then we're packing sliquids water based lubricant, We-Vibe's new line of vibrators (Betty's new fave), and Betty's vaginal barbell.  I'm going to be on the side lines making sure Betty has everything she needs and her interview is flawless *fingerscrossed*

I have been with my boyfriend M for 3 and a half years. Recently, he told me he has been fantasizing about having sex with me and other men. We both decided that this sounded exciting. I was just wondering if you have any advice for my first time? I think im okay with anal, vaginal, and double penetration. I need to know how to properly prepare for anal sex, to prevent any embarrassing situations. Also, we were thinking of recruiting M friends for the extra partners...do you think this is a good idea?

Thank you,
B

Dear B,

Hi there,

I really like your style, really! Ok here is the issue. My boyfriend and I have done a bit of group sex like threesomes a couple times. O.K. so its been fun for both of us. But, the feeling is that its been like a real good appetizer and going for the main course is going to be real swinging and swapping.

Sooo, two thoughts/questions are dominating our thinking. The first one: is a long term relationship dangerous? I mean I like the idea of having a regular couple, not just one time flings, wouldn't this be better?

The second question is age, we are mid 20's, I really like the idea of swinging with older people 40's or 50's, but then I think a turn on is one thing, but you have to also be social. Is too much age diffrence a problem?

Hi Betty, My partner of 3 years is obsessed with FFM threesomes. He always calls me Vanilla and makes me feel like I'm inadequate. He has told me his ex wife was very good at picking up women and regularly brought home playmates from nightclubs. He stayed home with the kids.

I took this on as a challenge and signed up on an online dating site, found a suitable lady and we saw her nearly every weekend for a month! He even made me 'take one for the team' and have sex with her alone at her home just to 'keep her on the hook'. I didn't want this as I felt like I was cheating. When I got home he was upset about it too, but said it had to be done.

Since I wrote part two of this series, I've been told how me writing erotica on advanced things like threesomes is a bad idea for several reasons: It doesn't apply to most people's sex lives. That it makes me look bad as a professional. That it alienates, intimidates, and scares off those who are just approaching sexual enjoyment for the first time.

I could make a good counter-argument on these concerns, but that's for another day. Because I also know some of you out there are of the opposite viewpoint: "I can't wait! Gimmie aaaaall the details with hot fudge and a cherry on top!" So, for all those not ready for dessert, come back to it another day when you are; or never ever, and that's okay too. Those who are ready for their homemade sundaes, take spoon in hand and read on!

I woke for the second time that morning. Kira's bedroom was brighter now. The sun had come up some more since I first woke (in part one) and my two hotties were still on either side of me. Long, straight dark hair on once side, wavy on the other, spread or coiled on their pillows where they slept.

I woke up in Kira's bed. She on my left and my... no, I'll take that back... -our- new lover, Calle, on my right. I looked back and forth at the two, peacefully-snoozing, dark brown heads. A singular happiness rose up in me. It made me notice how happiness comes, to me at least, in different forms, different sensations in my chest. This form was very special and felt very, very good.

Dear Dr. Betty,

Me and my boyfriend have been together for three years, we're very open with each other. He knows I'm bisexual, I know he used to be with a man and I know he has an obsession for threesomes (which bothers me).
 and have no idea what kind of person he is whatsoever. I said no and he told me to pretend his colleague was a woman with a strap-on. I told him it has nothing to do with the gender, what's bothering me is I do not know that person.

Dear Lord, last night was the weirdest, most awesome things I've experienced in... Yeah, forever.

Let me start out by saying I planned to lose my virginity. Yep, I planned it. I knew how, when, and where I wanted to let it happen. I don't like spontaneity. I'll ask you to tell me the ending of a book or movie and I'll still watch and enjoy it.

I had my mind made up. I was 100% sure that this was what I wanted.... Until I asked two people their opinions on the issue and then I got mixed up. I was presented with so many legitimate reasons why I shouldn't, but I still have just as many reasons why I should.

Hi Betty! Love reading your new memoir, by the way!

I'll dive straight into it. It's my boyfriend's, whom I love, birthday this weekend. We've been talking about having a 3some with a friend of ours for a while. He and I have already negotiated boundaries and both want to do this. I have had a 3some in the past before him. My boyfriend and I have been involved in flirting with this friend for quite a bit now. I'm aware that she likes my boobs and knows that I want her. She's super hot, and I want to make this happen for his birthday. I think he'd like the surprise.

How do I go about asking her if she'd like to be involved? How do I plan this evening at his place?

Thanks!
B

Dear B,

James' head was under Jenny's while they slow-motion french kissed. I reached over at my station of sex toys, condoms and lube and took the bottle of Sweet Almond Oil, put some into the cupped palm of my hand and put the bottle down on the floor next to the bed. I looked down at Jenny's supercurvy and firm-from-working-out-ass while I rubbed my hands together. I pushed her toned legs together and straddled the backs of her strong, sexy thighs. My naked cock stirred from the sensation of my balls against her skin, mouth watered just before my hands made first contact with the round and sensitive lower portions of her cheeks.

Here's the cut and pastes from a facebook discussion between me and my online friend, Mariah, on how challenging it is to make a threesome happen and settling a debate she was having with a friend on what constitutes group sex:

Mariah: Just read Part 3 of your Threesome blog post. Hot stuff! I think I'm
coming to NYC in October. Yay! Would love to meet face to face if time
permits. I'll let you know more deets when I have them. Hope all is
well

Jenny said to James, just before the tip of my cockhead touched her chin, "Keep my ass spread open... yeah..."

Then my penis made contact.

Her head lifted up slightly, she "mmm'ed," sucked my erection up into her throat and held it inside like it was a Charms Blo-Pop. Tasting it. Pressing her tongue against its underside and her upper lip against the top, then pulled her head back, milking the last drops of come out of my urethra. I heard her swallow hard. Breathe in, then go back down to make sure she got it all.