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Orgasm With My Legs Straight - Tensed Up

Thu, 02/10/2011 - 14:36
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi betty!

I'm an 18 year old girl who lost her virginity about 3 months ago. Since I was a young child I've always been fascinated by sex and knew I would be a very sexual person when I was older. After finding out that actually sex isnt like it is in the movies where the woman has a huge full body orgasm after only a few seconds of penetration I'm looking for the answer to real great sex. This lead me to stumble upon your videos on youtube about 3 days ago and you've already helped me so much! During masturbation (which I did a lot of before I even heard about you and what you teach) :)

I Can Only Orgasm By Straightening My Legs & Squeezing Them Together

Sat, 11/20/2010 - 20:26
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Dr. Betty -

I'm one of those women who was masturbating and having orgasms from the time I was a child. I started using the body part of my electric razor (take off the blade, and the thing that buzzed was clit-shaped) right around puberty.

I feel like I've had a pretty healthy and enjoyable sex life, and have considered myself orgasmic enough - I love my toys, can always get off on my own, have historically been able to get off from oral or manual stimulation from a partner if they're patient and at least a little tuned in to my body, and blow off those guys who have ignorant views on "but you don't come when we fuck" and the like.

Can't Orgasm with a Guy

Mon, 06/15/2009 - 18:31
Submitted by Betty Dodson

i was honest with my boyfriend about only being able to give myself an orgasm. it doesnt bother me that much. sex still feels amazing, but it's really frustrating for him. now he has been trying extra hard lately to find out what i need. the problem is, the way i get myself off has been the same since i was a kid, and is pretty much impossible for another human to do to me. i dont insert anything, in fact i dont even have to take my pants off. i just grind my clit against my hands and squeeze my legs together really tight. i think thats the problem is that i cant contract the muscles down there very well without squeezing my legs closed.

On my Stomach with My Legs Tense Isn't Cutting It Anymore

Sat, 04/18/2009 - 15:16
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty and Carlin!

I'm a 23 year old woman, have been masturbating since childhood & orgasmic since I was 14 or so. I'm gay, mostly. My problem is that I can generally only orgasm as follows: lying on my front, with my legs squeezed together,kind of humping my hand or a vibe. Very occasionally I'll reach orgasm while on my hands & knees, generally while being vaginally fisted, but my legs still have to be together.

My orgasms are not great, feel very tense and forced, not very profound. Often when I'm with a lover I get very frustrated and emotional because I find it so hard to come - I'll be incredibly turned on, but can't hook into the orgasm somehow.