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Why Do I Feel So Guilty When I Masturbate?

Thu, 07/28/2011 - 15:22
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi

Ok my problem is that I feel guilty when I masturbate :s. As soon as I orgasm I'm filled with guilt and feel as if I'm terrible person. I've tried to loose the habit by trying to keep going after I orgasm but my mind sticks on you shouldn't be doing this and it just goes around and around in my head so I just lose arousal :s. What do I do? I've now got into the habit of just rubbing my clit really hard for a quick release, as sometimes the guilt comes before I even climax. I'm 26 now and this has been going on for as long as I can remember. I'm now starting to feel guilty when I watch porn too :s. If I'm with a guy it doesn't happen but alone I feel awful and ashamed :(.

Help!

Dear C,

Feeling Guilty & Wondering if Childhood Sex Play was Abuse

Fri, 06/26/2009 - 18:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dr. Betty,

I hope you have a moment for me. Forgive my length. I have a personal question that's been tormenting but I'm too ashamed to ask anyone I know. I've been casually following you for years and I'm sure you won't judge me too harshly. I'm wondering if I was abused and if a friend I had for many years, I'll call him John, was the abuser rather than a friend. I'm torn between the excitement I had and the guilt I feel. I sometimes feel ashamed. I feel bad but at the same time get aroused by my memories and wish I had done more. I'm not sure whether to report him or thank him. One thing I know- my libido is high because of him so I masturbate often when I'm not having sex.

Suffer From Sexual Guilt

Thu, 01/08/2009 - 20:31
Submitted by Betty Dodson

i discovered masturbation at a very early age. i can't recall the first time, but i know i did it from a very young age. i'm not sure when the guilt kicked in, but i can't really recall a time i didn't feel guilty. i'm in my 30's now, but ever since i can remember i've had an issue around feeling intensely guilty and almost disgusted with myself after reaching orgasm, particularly after a masturbation orgasm. i've read a lot of literature on getting comfortable with my body, and that fantasies are fine and nothing to be ashamed of, but this seems to be a pretty deeply entrenched and wired issue that i'm finding very challenging to move past. it's got to a point where even if i feel aroused, i'd sometimes rather not masturbate, because i don't want to deal with the feelings of guilt and disapproval that follow.