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Can Sex Toys Retain Bacteria?

Mon, 04/03/2017 - 14:57
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi, Betty,

I have been using sex toys for many years. I am currently not with a partner. Recently I got more than one uti without having the typical painful uti symptoms. There were no symptoms at all. The most recent uti developed into severe sepsis and I was hospitalized for over a week and lucky to survive. A friend suggested perhaps it could be from a sex toy that somehow retained bacteria.

Now I am really concerned about trying to self-pleasure again. Do you have any suggestions?


Dear E,

In China Sex Toy Sales are Booming & Buzzing

Mon, 11/26/2012 - 09:49
Submitted by Anonymous

Thanksgiving may be an American holiday, but the Chinese have a good reason to be thankful anyway. Seems that sex toys have become a hot ticket item on the Chinese market. According to a Reuters article, sex toys can be found all over China -- in "adult health shops", hotels, and even convenience stores.

The market is huge and GROWING; they're projecting sales revenue in the range of 6.4 billion in the next few years -- and that's a lot of batteries! According to online retailer Lin DeGang, proprietor of, "Within five years, sex toys will be a common commodity for everyday use... a key element of a fashionable lifestyle."

Strike one for Chinese women!

Vibrator App for Your iPhone

Mon, 09/21/2009 - 11:10
Submitted by Carlin Ross brings you the MyVibe iPhone app - and it's FREE. Now, it's not going to vibrate as intensely as the Hitachi Magic Wand but it is refreshing to have an iPhone app that caters to the sexual preferences of the female market. 

Debbie Herbenick, PhD tried it out and broke it down for us: there's an on/off button that looks like many computer on/offs so it's easily recognizable. On the right side, there are up and down arrows to control your vibration - short, quick pulses (smaller #s) or longer, slower ones (higher #s, up to 100). [If your phone isn't vibrating at first, make sure your volume switch on the left of the iPhone is turned to vibrate.]

Nax: The Male Sex Doll

Fri, 09/18/2009 - 12:57
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Nax is kind of scary but he is a German export.  Not only is he going bald on top with a long flowing ponytail a la Michael Bolton circa the ‘90s, he also sports a pubic bush that would make a forest jealous.

Although the Germans describe Nax as "a giant of a man with athletic appeal", it's quite obvious that they didn't consult a female focus group.  Men are always so scared of competition ;)

So if you have $10,000 lying around for a sex doll know that Nax isn't always ready to go with a massive erection. He has an "automatically soaring penis" and "artificial automatic ejaculation."

Crank That Vibe!

Thu, 09/10/2009 - 08:15
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Betty and I have spent a lot of time searching for a low cost battery vibe we could send off to Africa as part of our efforts with Clitoraid.  We thought that we'd have to rely on battery power but this new toy may be our answer:

Environmentally conscious women are getting a buzz out of a new hand-cranked vibrator that makers say could help save the planet.  The eco-sex toy - dubbed the Earth Angel - uses a small wind-up handle to power up rechargeable batteries inside the casing.

It had originally been planned as a sex aid for the Third World where batteries and electricity supplies are unreliable.

My Rockin Pussy

Hi there! I used to be fairly unhappy with the appearance of my pussy. I didn't like the coloring or size. But as of late, viewing this site and the other pictures posted here, I have realized that I am just fine. I masturbate fequently now, and love sex of all kinds. From behind would have to be my favorite position, I like the feeling of being taken. I have been having fantasies about being watched lately...

Happy healthy sex life!

Resting flaccid
A little excited
Untrimmed profile
Having fun
Becoming erect
Cumming in action

Hello Betty, Carlin and all dear sex lovers,

I am a mid 40's man, very well married for more than 20 years with the same woman that I have started my adult sex life with. I love and desire her more and more as time goes by...

We have an intense sexual life. We make love around 4 days a week, but whenever it is possible - as on vacation time - it is much more than this. And I am glad to know that she gets her orgasms every time we have sex.

Since we started dating - at college times - we love to masturbate together. Besides that, I still masturbate every single day, sometimes twice or more...

Advanced Anal, Vaginal, and Clitoral Sex via The Butterfly Toy

Fri, 04/10/2009 - 16:32
Submitted by Eric Amaranth

I love this piece. Some advanced intercourse. It's the next sex toy erotica piece. I'm working on part three of my real-life erotica series, Hair Like A Long Black Curtain. It wont be long now.

Jessica pulled the covers up over her bare shoulders. Laying on her
side with me on my back, I remember feeling her smooth inner thigh
across my stomach, pulling me into her body-grasp. With just a little
thrust, she made sure I knew her vulva was wet as it kissed the space
between my hip and my ass. I looked over to her peaceful face, eyes
closed with a tiny smile.

"I brought the Butterfly, finally," I said. I felt her head stir on the pillow we were sharing.

"Good. I was gonna smack you if you'd forgotten it again." She
smooched my shoulder and traced her fingers through the hair in the
center of my chest.

Need a Soft Vibe

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Tue, 02/24/2009 - 17:17
Submitted by Betty Dodson

HI Betty-

I had a private session with you many years ago which revolutionalized my sex life!!!!! I LOVE the water dancer- it is perfect except one thing- i wish it was silent. I saw you recommend the liberte personal massager on your website as well and it is silent. However, it mentions the liberte is for women who prefer a softer vibration so i wonder if i am a person who likes the water dancer on the highest setting if liberte will be strong enough for me . What do you think??

Are Glass Dildos Safe?

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Thu, 01/08/2009 - 15:45
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Are glass dildos safe? My wife is scared to try one. She thinks there is a chance it will break inside of her. I understand her fear. I would not like to have splinters of glass inside of me. OUCH!!!! Please help.

Sex Toy Critiques & Vibrators for Men

Fri, 12/12/2008 - 18:48
Submitted by Carlin Ross

We took the weekend to review the Sasi and the Synergy. And then we answered some of your questions....

Eric's First Play Party...

Not everyone gets this sort of invite.  And you have to come prepared like our Eric Amaranth does with a packed case of Sliquid Organics Natural Lube, an Hitachi Magic Wand, and Betty's Barbell.

6:27 minutes (5.91 MB)

Ode to The Water Dancer

Sun, 11/16/2008 - 11:28
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I will admit that I've been a bit of a Hitachi addict ala Margaret Cho for the past year.  It's right on my night stand and guarantees instant orgasms.  What's not to love?

So I was surprised when I stopped myself mid-grasp, pulled open my sex toy drawer, and opted for my waterdancer. Yes, it takes a bit longer to come but there's something about delaying myself more time to fantasize which was so refreshing. It's time to reaffirm my love affair with my favorite battery powered clit stimulator. Thank you, waterdancer for the best orgasm $20 can buy a girl.

outdoorgirl70 Loves Her Butterfly Vibe

Thu, 09/18/2008 - 15:04
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I cannot describe in words how fantastic this vibrator have to experience the ectasy for yourself!!!!

I have the butterfly vibrator featured in Betty's sex toy shop in this website. There are other versions of the butterfly and of course there are many variations of dual action vibrators. I have a wild kingdom of animals living in my 'pleasure chest' under the bed.

The butterfly featured in Betty's shop IS THE BEST DUAL ACTION VIBRATOR EVER!!! I have lots of sex toys and this sex toy is my favorite!! It has vibrating antenna with fluttering wings and there are nubs underneath the front part of the vibrating butterfly which provide a subtle and amazing sensations.

Betty's Vaginal Barbell is a Show Stopper!

Thu, 09/11/2008 - 12:51
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I had to post this comment we received on Betty's vaginal barbell from one of our members, Theresa.  I know I LOVE my barbell:

Submitted by theresatheresa on Thu, 08/28/2008 - 19:31.

"Happy Birthday to ME!!"

I just bought this for myself for my birthday yesterday! I have had three multi-orgasmic self love sessions in the 24 hours since this purchase. Terrific purchase!