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Feeling Guilty & Wondering if Childhood Sex Play was Abuse

Fri, 06/26/2009 - 18:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dr. Betty,

I hope you have a moment for me. Forgive my length. I have a personal question that's been tormenting but I'm too ashamed to ask anyone I know. I've been casually following you for years and I'm sure you won't judge me too harshly. I'm wondering if I was abused and if a friend I had for many years, I'll call him John, was the abuser rather than a friend. I'm torn between the excitement I had and the guilt I feel. I sometimes feel ashamed. I feel bad but at the same time get aroused by my memories and wish I had done more. I'm not sure whether to report him or thank him. One thing I know- my libido is high because of him so I masturbate often when I'm not having sex.

Happy Father's Day

Fri, 06/26/2009 - 00:33
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Betty and I paid tribute to our fathers by recounting the two most memorable experiences we'd had with our dads. Is it really a surprise that they involve sex and booze? 

Think Vagina is "Loose" Due to Sexual Abuse

Wed, 06/10/2009 - 15:09
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I was sexually abused from a very young age (vaginal penetration at the age of 3) and have been told by more than one partner that I feel "loose". I don't always feel much at the lower part of my vagina, especially when on top, even if my partner has a large penis. I have been in therapy to deal with the sexual abuse for the past 2 years and am finally in a place to accept and explore my sexuality on my own terms. But this is very embarrassing for me.

Sexual Activity Spikes During Holiday Season

Mon, 12/22/2008 - 19:43
Submitted by Carlin Ross

A study by biorhythm researchers and makers of sex-related products say the uptick in sex is fueled by resolutions to have children, alcohol and parties.  Fa La La La La...La La La La!

The Christmas-New Year's period produces a year-high spike in sexual activity and conceptions in the United States, according to biorhythm researchers and makers of sex-related products.
They attribute the increase to holiday leisure and New Year's resolutions to have children. New Year's irresolution fueled by alcohol and partying is another contributing factor.

One of My Favorite Threesomes

Wed, 12/10/2008 - 18:31
Submitted by Eric Amaranth

My lover Tira called for me to come talk to her and her friend Zoe while they were taking their shower together. I'd already slipped off my shoes and socks, so I pulled off my shirt on the way to the bathroom. The two women under the spray smiled and kept bathing.

"Come on in," they said.

The invitation felt good. I unbuckled my belt and unzipped my slacks while Tira and Zoe watched. I finished undressing and stepped into their midst. I'm not sure what happened next. All I can remember is I was welcomed. Physically. Eventually, I went down on my knees under the shower, both women to my front, their flat stomachs pressed against the right or left side of my face, my arms around each of them.

What are the Alternatives to Kissing & Intercourse?

Sun, 09/07/2008 - 13:53
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi, Betty.

I have herpes--genital and oral. In addition, since I had my tubes tied about 5 years ago, I get my period about every 21 to 25 days. This was never an issue before. I was married, but am now separated and in a new relationship.