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Mac Mcclelland is a journalist. She spent several months interviewing rape victims in Haiti and developed post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) - not good for a journalist. Therapy...yoga...nothing worked.  Mac describes how violent sex helped ease ger PTSD:

As I said in part one and two of rough sex and objectification, rough sex most often has little to no clitoral stimulation provided by the man because it's all about his pleasure and ravishing her in totality.

However, as www.sexandsubmission.com shows in the videos there, the women get a lot of Hitachi Magic Wand action on their clit, and orgasms, provided by the men lording over their tied up bodies. It made me smile to see how they use black gaffer's tape around the wand's white handle and a black condom over the white vibrating head to make it look all serious and badass. :)

Olivia loves bondage and masculine domination combined with intercourse and oral sex. She revealed to me her subscription to kink.com's site, www.sexandsubmission.com. I got a membership and watched some hot examples. The tying her up part and sexing her while she's helpless, to whatever extent, can be taken to darker psychological places for some people. However, if you're not interested in going there, (I am not) I discovered bondage is still a great tool for turning up the volume so to speak, or intensity, on the psychological erotics that occur between a woman in her most feminine and vulnerable and a man's masculine over her.

I've been reading and investigating the cases of what sex therapy professionals, namely psychologists, are dealing with in their practice so I can reference some of that info in my teaching. One repeated issue is, termed by the conservative mindset, as the objectification of your primary partner with whom you share parenting or not. In this case, the person you've married and spent more than 2 years married to. It makes situations where people meet, have hot erotic-driven sex, marry, then that goes away either because of the responsibilities, fascinations, and energy/attention demands of the child or, with or without children, the law of diminishing returns sets in and the sex isn't as fiery as it started out. I believe objectification is just as necessary as adoration throughout our sex life.

I was just re-reading my latest blog post on Kit-Ting and I like it a lot. I realized that I've been giving you a few experiences that have traditional tantra and equals-sex energy. Maybe we could call stuff like that, advanced vanilla :)