premature ejaculation

I Need to Practice Delaying Ejaculation. Should I Cheat or Masturbate?

Thu, 12/29/2016 - 09:03
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

Throughout my 18 year marriage with my wife I've been a premature ejaculator (it's been really hard for both of us). The thing is is that I get turned on so quickly (every time I embrace my wife and give her a kiss there's a stirring in my pants - I never have a cuddle without becoming erect (and it's embarrassing to be honest - perhaps it would be less so if I could avoid cumming after 1 or 2 minutes inside her).

I have found that using a delay cream helps and makes sex last a lot longer and much more enjoyable.

When I have Sex with My Girl I Ejaculate Within a Minute of Her Touching My Penis or Worse

Fri, 08/03/2012 - 09:06
Submitted by Betty Dodson


I am 19 year old and have been masturbating from say last 7-8 years. Now when I have sex with my girl, I ejaculate within a minute of her touching my penis or worse..she is a very nice girl and doesn't complain but still I feel like a loser.

What do you think I should do? IS it due to my super fast masturbation sessions in the past?..Is there anything I can do to surprise her?,I do not want to use pills/creams as I am alergic to Sulfur and few more chemicals. Is there any natural way to increase my time or undo what I have done?..:(

Dear M,

If I Masturbate Will I Ejaculate Too Soon During Sex?

Mon, 10/03/2011 - 16:34
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I'm a 25yr old single male. I've been single for 2yrs now, and have not had sex in those 2yrs. It hasn't been easy. I've had the opportunity to have a few one night stands but I haven't gone through with it. That's just not my thing and I'd prefer it to be with someone that I'm in a relationship with.

Long story short, self-pleasure has been my only release. I do this 3-4 times a week on average. Sometimes I masturbate on a daily basis. Lately I've been wondering if this is a bad thing. When I do meet someone and become intimate with them, will I be so used to masturbating that I ejaculate quickly? I feel like I've set myself up for embarrassment and that I should lay off masturbating for a while now. Any advice?

Dear S,

Selfloving is a Very Practical Way to Get Better & Better at Sex

Wed, 05/04/2011 - 07:43
Submitted by Eric Amaranth

One of the most important advantages of selfloving is for developing sexual sophistication in forms both physical and mental. Selfloving can serve as your punching bag in the gym, so to speak, to practice body-based sexual pleasure skills and fantasy for mind-based skills.

I figured this out a long time ago and it was one of the reasons I chose Betty to be my sex life coaching mentor because we were on the same page in a time when no one else in my world was.

I Ejaculate When I Touch My Girlfriend's Breasts

Mon, 02/28/2011 - 10:35
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I'm 25 and I m suffering from pre-mature ejaculation.even when i touch my girl friends boobs I ejaculate. can you please tell me if there is any permanent cure for that so that I can enjoy sex. I have tried some techniques but in vain.


Dear S,

2 Months Into Marriage Prematurely Ejaculating Out of Nowhere

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Sun, 09/07/2008 - 08:41
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty I wanted to ask if you know how i can prevent PM ejaculation.

I'm 26 years old and I've been married for 2 months now. Before I married my wife we abstained from having sex in our relationship withing the 3 years we've been together. During the first month everything was ok with our sex life. But in the middle of the second month I started to cum faster than usual.

Hey Eric: How Do I Last Longer in Bed?

Fri, 08/15/2008 - 15:45
Submitted by Eric Amaranth

Hello Dr. Betty & Eric,

I read about your web site in the book "more hot sex" by Tracey Cox. I have a question I was hoping you could advise me on. I want to be able to last longer in bed and not cum so quick. So I did some research and started doing PC exercises. I've been doing them 3 times a week for a month now. I do 150 quick clenches and then try and hold them down for as long as I can. So far, I'm up to 70 seconds. I thought I'd be getting a harder erection and more lasting power but when I masturbate, I still feel the urge to ejaculate within a minute"fast and hard self loving"...;) I've tried getting close and then stopping but then when I start again after my hard-on subsides, I get closer even QUICKER than before....Can you give me any tips?