Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

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As a society, we don't see much information on pleasure during and after pregnancy. Seldom are the words seen together; yet ironically sex is what brought us to this point!

Here are my top ten ways to maximize sexual pleasure during pregnancy:

1. Listen to your body. The first trimester is exhausting for pregnant women. Coupled with nausea and breast tenderness, sexual intercourse may be the last thing on your mind! Just as your body and relationship are transitioning, so must your sexual expression. It is never static. Sexuality is fluid, always changing how we choose express and feel it. This is an excellent time to build intimacy with your partner through touch, massage and enjoying the quiet.

Here is another link to a Ph.D. sexologist, Danielle Harel, who did her dissertation on sexualizing labor and birth.

I wanted to make her info available, but I want to comment on what I consider to be oversimplifications to the concept of increased arousal and increased stimulation in several of her statements. This is getting into the minutia of sexual technique and any time you move down into the details, I consider them advanced sex concepts. As Betty often says to me, "Goddess is very often in the details."

Here are three links to sites that have info on this largely unknown topic in women's sexuality:

Here's an article on sensual birth options with many fine links to more sources.

This link is a forum page on women who have integrated clitoral play into their labor and their results.

And this is from a favorite site of mine that discusses sex/intercourse/making love during labor.