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I am sixteen years old and never had an orgasm because I haven't started my period. I have only masturbated a few times because I didn't know if it was safe or not. Betty plz help

P.S. You're amazing
Bye

Dear L,

I was laying in bed last night and I felt well how do you say hot and bothered all of the sudden. With one little problem, my period. But I did it anyway. It felt so good I even went for the second orgasm after the first. It was the BEST orgasm I'd had in a long time if ever. It came (no pun intended) at me like a ton of bricks and everything left my mind but that sensation, which was running through me. I was wondering why my orgasms are better on my period?
Yours Truly,
Seventeen Year Old Modern Thinking Girl

Dear T,

The excessive farts, cravings for Oreo Pie, and hormonal breakouts are officially in full swing. That can only mean one thing: I am menstruating.

You know, menstruation is amazing. Truly it is. I've blogged about it before and we all know I love moon blood and all that good shit.

HOWEVER, the symptoms that come along with it? Not so much amazing. They never told me this when I was taking sex education. From my understanding, I would have some bleeding and possibly some minor cramping (but that's just for the really unlucky girls) and I would be done within five days or less.

LIES.

I have officially become a woman who can no longer precisely pinpoint the onset of nearing menses. How completely inconvenient. In the past months, I've started bleeding at the very beginning of a 100 question anatomy test (complete with a two part discussion question).

I've started bleeding while standing in a long line of a grocery store. I've started bleeding in the car, when I realize I have nary a pad or tampon and toilet paper will be my savior once again.

Inspired by the Guardian's coverage of Chella Quint, a menstruation activist, I decided to ask our female bloggers to answer this question,  "what does your period mean to you?" 

As a young girl, I was terrified by first period stories.  You know the period lore - the accounts of the girls who got their period in school unprepared with either blood running down their legs or blood soaking through their panties and their jeans to the jeers of their classmates.  I was so thankful when I got my period the morning before school right after my shower.  Somehow I had been spared the indignity that a simple panty liner could have eliminated.