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Female Orgasm While Peeing & Pooping

Tue, 12/01/2015 - 09:20
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Amazing how I continue to learn something new thanks to “Ask Dr. Betty” on our D&R website. Many times a questioner will ask something I know nothing about. That’s when I head over to my Google god and begin searching— so easy! Not like having to pour over big reference books in some musty library.

About The Trip or About The Orgasm?

Thu, 09/11/2014 - 06:56
Submitted by Eric Amaranth

One debate that you hear if you're listening to different sex teaching professionals is whether you should be goal-oriented with your orgasms to have bigger and better ones, or not care about whether you have one and just enjoy the ride whether you have an orgasm or not. You get people who are divided in their opinions and stay that way. My position is they both are important.

Let's take the first one. Goal-orientation toward having orgasms and then having more of them in the same sex session, having bigger orgasms, different kinds of orgasms, and combining orgasms to name a few of the directions you can go with making your sex life a more sophisticated and exciting one. The reasons why goal-orientation is good and needed is:

I Want to Get Myself to a Place Where I Can Orgasm with My Hand

Tue, 12/17/2013 - 09:53
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Dr. Betty,

I emailed you over a year ago talking about some issues I was having with arousal and orgasming (I am 24 years old) Since then, I have gone off of birth control and spent time focusing on my masturbation technique. I am hoping you can give me some advice on these following issues:

Add a Camera & Orgasm Becomes the Greatest Honesty

Wed, 07/31/2013 - 14:52
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Having an orgasm on camera is the most intimidating thing you can ever conceive of doing. For many of us, having an orgasm at all is a challenge. Add a camera and orgasm becomes the greatest honesty.

After we shot the Bodysex film and flew off to Norway to film a private session for NRK, it was all over: I was a woman who'd had an orgasm on camera. I'd crossed the line from lawyer to porn star. There was no going back.

Betty's Rock 'n Roll Orgasm Technique

Thu, 02/21/2013 - 14:43
Submitted by Carlin Ross

People always ask about Betty's Rock 'n Roll orgasm technique.

She spells it out in First Time Orgasm, Learn a New Orgasm: How to Upgrade Your Masturbation Technique and her orgasm ebook Learn How to Orgasm in 4 Acts.

Basically, you're lying on your back with your legs bent hip distance apart...rocking your pelvis forward as your squeeze your pc muscle then relaxing your pelvis as your release your pc muscle. 

Rock/Squeeze...Relax/Release...Repeat. 

5 Tips To Avoid Hasty Breakups Due To Sex Skill Failures

Wed, 11/28/2012 - 13:04
Submitted by Eric Amaranth

No one talks about it. It makes the ego sting when what one does well in bed fails. Blame is placed on the other person when much better responses exist. Here are some tips for dealing with this before deciding to break it off too soon.

1. Communicate. Talk with your partner to get more information on how good something feels that you’re doing. Maybe that something you think works… really isn’t significant at that time or to their body in general. Get info on the things they know is hot for them that perhaps did nothing for your last partner. If you’re in a marriage, this is especially important because you are sharing the same life with your partner now and there’s no easy way out of that.

When Psychologists Ignore or Dismiss the Body's Role in Orgasm

Sat, 02/11/2012 - 11:12
Submitted by Eric Amaranth

Below is a response I wrote recently to an article on www.psychologytoday.com by Stanley Siegel, LCSW. Click here for his full article. I semi-support his theory, however, I disagreed with a position he takes that I've seen taken too often by the psychology-based sex therapy community at large. One that supports a mind-as-center-for-orgasm message that cheats the audience of that message of a tremendous portion of their sexual capability and birthright.

Read on for my response, slightly re-written for this blog entry:

Can A Friend's Comment Banish My Orgasms?

Thu, 09/22/2011 - 16:24
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dr. Betty,

I am 21 years old and I believe my orgasms and sexual self-esteem have forever been tainted. When I was a young teen, about 14 or 15, I believe I was having orgasms voluntarily. I could sit a certain way and I would have great sensations and vaginal contractions. It felt good and I believed I was in the small minority of women who could have orgasms that easily.

I was enjoying myself by doing this whenever I wanted until I told one of my friends about it. I was 16 and still a virgin at the time, she was not, and as I explained it to her she assured me that what I was feeling was not an orgasm and that I'd know what a real orgasm is like after I had sex.

Orgasm: The Cure for Hunger in the Western Woman

Tue, 07/05/2011 - 06:10
Submitted by Anonymous

Nicole Daedone gives a beautiful talk about what brought her to the cause for female pleasure. I can't help but get insanely excited each time I discover another woman championing the cause of pleasure as the vital ingredient in social progress.

Plus it makes me even more certain that the work Betty has been doing for decades needs mainstream recognition and acknowledgment so that women know there are resources out there to fight the cultural "pleasure deficit disorder" our society suffers from.

How Orgasm Affects Your Brain

Mon, 05/23/2011 - 09:29
Submitted by Carlin Ross

MRI scans taken while participants were masturbating reveal what happens to your brain at the moment of orgasm:

"Over 30 areas of my brain are activated as I move from start to finish, including those involved in touch, memory, reward and even pain. As [researcher Barry] Komisaruk expected, the imagined clitoral touches and Kegel exercises activated the same brain areas as real ones, albeit with somewhat less blood flow.

The One Day Stand Erotica, Plus Hotel Sex Advice, part I

Tue, 05/17/2011 - 08:28
Submitted by Eric Amaranth

Here is some more of my real-life sex erotica.  It's based on what I'd call "a One Day Stand" with a late twenty-something we'll call Vivian. She's a past lover I haven't seen in a while and lives in another state. Sometimes I write erotica long after the sex, sometimes sooner. When inspiration hits, I go with it. This post has some good sex in a hotel advice too.

Morning Sex, The Female Condom, and Water-Based Lube's Sidekick

Sat, 04/23/2011 - 14:20
Submitted by Eric Amaranth

Pictured below are a stick of lip balm (for scale) a tube of Aloelife water-based lubricant, which is my current water-based lube of choice. Beside it is a mini spray bottle from a store called Muji. Below is our first time trying the Muji sprayer and other first times last weekend morning.

12 Interesting Facts About Female Sexuality

Tue, 02/15/2011 - 12:05
Submitted by Anonymous

1. According to David Buss and Cindy Meston in their best-selling book Why Women Have Sex, women who have smaller breasts are more sensitive to erotic stimulation than their more endowed sisters. Plus, breast sensitivity tends to decrease with age in all women.