Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

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As a sex life coach, I hear a particular question fairly often: “How do I get him to initiate sex more often? I feel like I’m always the one who gets things started.” Some of the reasons why he may be doing this can combo together to make him even less likely to charge forward. Here are four solid things I tell my clients:

Here is a newsweek article exposing something I've only heard of in old world military structures. Rape between men in the military.

After I finished reading the article, I placed myself in two different sets of shoes involved in the assault. The victim's and what I would do and the onlooker's who has to go along with one man's evil or else be the target himself. Then there are the commanding officers who don't report it because they want promotions and decorations, not justice. Then I thought about the victim's feeling of being trapped with your rapist(s) every day and you can't quit, you can't turn them in. Then I thought, what do women in the military feel when that situation is before them?

I was walking Phineas this morning when a beautiful young woman walked up and gushed over my dog's supernatural cuteness. We'd talked before, she'd gushed before, so this was our round three. We'll call her Raven. This time Raven asked me what I do, eyes and hands down at the ubercute dog in my arms.

"Well, I'm a sex life consultant."

Her head jolted up with wide, excited, brown eyes behind her stylish sunglasses. Raven and I had a conversation with words to the effect of:

"Wow, really? Awesome. My friend is going to become a sex therapist."

I said, "Yes, that's psychology's sex wing. I don't do psych."

"What do you cover then?"