manual masturbation

How Can I Master Masturbation With My Fingers?

Tue, 11/25/2008 - 22:02
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I am 58 yrs old.  I find it very difficult to orgasm when I masturbate manually and yet can orgasm very quickly when my husband touches me or when I use my 'Hitachi'. I would like to be able to master this skill as I understand from your books and dvds that until I can self love then I am not bringing anything into the lovemaking. The problems I have is that I am overweight so I can only just reach my clitoris, I have fibromyalgia which means that I can't keep going at it for the recommended 20-30mins and when I touch my body I feel very little sensation and yet when my husband touches me it is very sensual. I would really appreciate your thoughts on these matters.