Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

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Dodson and Ross answer your questions on porn addiction, women competing with porn stars, and lesbian fantasies.  

Betty, take a breath - Ladies, hold on to your panties.  O Magazine (yes I mean Oprah) has a feature entitled "Why Women are Leaving Men for Other Women" tracking the phenom of straight women opting for lesbian relationships later in life.  This was our experience in Cuba and in LA.  Women who had been married and had children opted for a sapphic relationship mid-life.  Here's some of the thinking behind the "why":

...experts like Binnie Klein, a Connecticut-based psychotherapist and lecturer in Yale's department of psychiatry, agree that alternative relationships are on the rise. "It's clear that a change in sexual orientation is imaginable to more people than ever before, and there's more opportunity-and acceptance-to cross over the line," says Klein, noting that a half-dozen of her married female patients in the past few years have fallen in love with women. "Most are afraid that if they don't go for it, they'll end up with regrets."

Women clearly understand that there are many lifestyle and sexstyle choices available to them.  Wonderful!

I think this is the most romantic thing I've ever heard of ever.  Imagine your partner pregnant with you - understanding everything that you're feeling - and they're carrying each other's embryos *sigh*

Iron Chef America" star Cat Cora and her wife Jennifer Cora are both pregnant, she announced. Both are expecting boys, which will double their brood. They are already parents to older boys, Caje, 22 months and Zoran, 5, from the same donor as the two who are coming.

On her MySpace blog, Cat posted the following message:

"Iron Chef's Cat Cora has a bigger surprise than the unveiling of her secret ingredient on her hit Food Network show; She's expecting her third--and fourth--sons! "It's really crazy!" the chef, 41, said. Cat will give birth three months after her partner, Jennifer Cora, 37. "We decided that having them a year apart is harder than having kids as infants together," Cat says of their planned pregnancies. Their four children have the same sperm donor but Cat says," [Jennifer] carried my embryo and I carried hers. It's like surrogating, but obviously all of our kids are equal."

As a heterosexual, bisexual, lesbian, butch-dyke, feminist, Daphne Merkin's article on Rachel Maddow and the rise of lesbian chic knocked me out.  It's about time we make room for every type of woman not just those that have been blessed with the genetics that cater to the limited ideal of beauty in our culture:

"In the ongoing dance of the sexes, women who remain partnerless are referred to as ‘‘wallflowers'' while unpartnered men are simply that - not yet taken. The former become invisible; the latter become ever more conspicuously valuable. In the sense that lesbianism might be said to mirror the condition of straight women raised to an exponential power of God knows what, their minor status in gay culture reflects the secondary status of straight women in the culture at large. For in truth, until fairly recently, lesbians have been the wallflowers at the homosexual dance, waiting to get their share of recognition"