Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

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Hey Dr. Betty!
Your website is a fabulous resource; thanks so much.
Onto my question:

We're Emily and Ju, two new bloggers for the site who will be bringing you posts about a number of things, including genderqueer and trans identities, kink, porn, and the intersections between these things.

Though we have different identities and come from different cultural backgrounds, we both share a certain understanding of how our cultures repress the sexuality of women and queers of all genders. As such, we'll always try to bring a strong intersectional feminist analysis to our writings.

So you can get to know us a bit better, we'll take a moment to introduce ourselves individually !

It was my first client. And he wanted to see me. I only had one outfit to wear - a skintight shiny black PVC dress and 6" spiky stilettos.

When the headmistress saw me buckling the straps of my shoes, she stopped me. "You don't need to worry about that," she said. "He really isn't into what you're going to wear."

"Oh." I paused, disappointingly. "What is he into?"

"Your feet," she replied.

I smiled. "Oh." I imagined this new client would be on his knees, caressing my tense arches and licking the soft gaps in between my toes.

When I moved into the city, I wanted to learn how to make dolls. I studied the meticulous process of sculpting little parts out of polymer clay (the only material I could afford at the time), baking these little limbs in the oven (or kiln if i could find one), and painting little lips and eyes onto the heads. Tufting the hair. Sewing dolly outfits.

I will admit that when Christina (our unapologetic panty sniffing blogger) first sent me the link to her blog I was deeply disturbed by a post she did on kitten crushing videos.  And it seems that I'm not alone. 

The Supreme Court will hear the federal government's appeal of U.S. v. Stevens, a circuit court's overturning of a 1999 federal law that makes it a crime to create, sell, or possess depictions of animal cruelty for commercial gain. If the court reverses the lower court's decision and reinstates the law, images showing the intentional torture or killing of animals would be deemed illegal. But technically, so might depictions of bullfighting in Spain or fishing and hunting out of season.

Husband was at work. Roommate was at the gym. Cats were lounging on the window sill, enjoying the last hour of sunshine before dark. What did this all mean to me? I can masturbate in peace!

I hopped on my bed, grabbed an old Natural Contours vibe and got to work. This particular sex toy holds very fond memories for me; we worked side-by-side in Afrodite Superstar. Well, actually, it was more than side-by-side... but you get what I mean.

You think you know everything about sex and then you're trumped by such an obvious fetish.  Over the weekend, an elderly man was arrested for blowing white pepper into a young cashier's face twice in an attempt to get her to sneeze.  I'm not sure if he wanted her to sneeze "on him".  I would think that the lack of control coupled with the spittle and possible snot would be part of the turn on. 

The worst part is that the cashier never sneezed.  The pepper went down her throat and not up her nose.  She had to go to the hospital so this poor old man was arrested on two counts of aggravated assault. 

I would sneeze on him right now. 

Finally saw the poorly received Jennifer's Body. I had seen screenshots from the movie, but I still hadn't a clue as to what the movie was actually about. Most pictures featured the lovely-to-look-at Megan Fox boasting a set of beastly canines.

I was prompted to see the movie after I read an article featuring the director of Jennifer's Body, Karyn Kusama. She talks about her expectations of the film and the landscape of female directors in Hollywood. I was particularly moved by the marketing of the movie:

"I think boys will really enjoy it, but it makes me extremely, extremely frustrated to imagine that I have been working on this movie for nearly two years now and have committed this much time and energy because, precisely because I felt like if I were nineteen again, I would know someone was speaking to me and gave a s-t about my existence in the pop cultural landscape."

I heard about this story a few weeks ago, and I wanted to talk about it here; but, somehow, I got distracted, as what normally tends to happen when I'm writing, so it quickly disappeared into the recesses of my mind. But, when I heard about the ripple (almost a wave) of crimes occurring in my hometown, Bridgeport (Conn), I was quickly reintroduced to the one idea that got away. It was surprisingly one of the many violent assaults that have overwhelmed the city (two of which ended in murder). As of yet, the victims were released slightly unscathed.

This week's travel through this particular kink was inspired by a book that I discovered at our museum. Satanica Sexualis is a devilishly comprehensive resource that delineates the taboo relationship we have with demonology, black magic, and the grandmaster of evil himself. Upon reading about one particular Black Mass in which the host has sex with his virgin sacrifice, I had not considered where the origin of the word "fetishism" sprung from, which means religion of the fetish. Its multi-lingual derivations, from Latin to Italian, generally translate to witchcraft. What we explore each week is based on the erotic mysticism that we connect with our fetish-object.

But, we are going to transcend through the spectrum of religious sex and not only explore demonic fantasies, but also how the images of rosary beads and men of the cloth can get some of us-maybe you-very, very horny.

So far we have dreamt of goddesses big and tall, animals with sexy bodies, and sex with Satan. So, of course this day was going to come.

It would take an entire book for me to describe just how excited I get by supernatural fantasies. Sure, I won't meet any of these monsters in real life. But a gal can dream, can't she?

For now, let's celebrate the top 5 sexiest things that go bump in the night!

Sure, I like to discuss all sorts of fetishes and strange sexual behavior. And you might deem some of these actions as unnatural or perverted. But, have you looked at our fellow four-legged friends in the animals kingdom? Mammals, lizards, insects - they all have sexual lives. While humans continue to differentiate the normal from the depraved, for these critters, it's just another sexy day in the jungle... or forest... or wherever they roam.

Even domesticated animals heed to pleasure when they feel it, as evident in my previous cat, Muschi.

In honor of True Blood and the launch of our "kink" section on the site, we're introducing Christina Cicchelli our new fetish blogger.  Here's her first piece on Blood Play:

Feeling a bit thirsty? Do you desire something special, darker, and deliciously sinful? Well, in light of the recent vampire craze, I don't blame you. Not only has Charlaine Harris and Stephanie Meyer re-awakened the most sensual of all supernatural beasts, but they have also brought blood play into the forefront of the sexual landscape. This week's Road to Kink is all about blood. We're going to sink our teeth deep into the various ways blood is used to heighten the sexual experience. So, grab a few band-aids. You're going to need them.

Christina Cicchelli is a "Sexventurer" of sorts; she's spent over five years as a sex worker and has experience in a myriad of industries, including phone sex and professional domination. As a Mistress, she has worked in several NYC Dungeons and also visited devoted clients on an independent basis. As a phone sex operator, she maintained a large amount of callers who sought her guidance, creativity, and experience in fetish and role-play.

Christina is best known for her career as a porn actress. Under the non de plume, Simone Valentino, she's performed in a handful of films. She received an AVN nomination for Best Actress for her role in Afrodite Superstar and also won Best New Starlet at the Feminist Porn Awards in 2008 for her role in Audacia Ray's The Bi Apple.