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Thanks to You I Realized Herpes isn't a Big Deal

Wed, 03/30/2011 - 20:46
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

Your opinions on HSV2 have made me look at the virus in a whole new light. You've really changed my mind, and I can feel your support! It's really not a big deal, and my partner knows I have it, but I continue to worry constantly that he will catch it from me and it will ruin our relationship. I now realize that we love each other, but even more than that, I love myself. I know that I am who I am, regardless of this cold sore virus I have!

Scared To Have Sex After Herpes Diagnosis

Thu, 05/21/2009 - 15:38
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Im a 22 year old single mother. I was told I had herpes about 2 years ago that I apparently caught from my daughters father. I haven't really had sex with anyone because Im scared to give anyone herpes so I've pretty much been masturbating for the past 2 years. I've recently been dating someone who knows about me having herpes and would like to be intimate but I'm scared. Can I still enjoy sex the way I used to and still be safe? I also read somewhere that as long as I don't have an outbreak, its ok to have unprotected sex, is this true?

Can I Still Live My Bachelorette Lifestyle With a STD?

Tue, 02/24/2009 - 16:07
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dr. Betty-

Per your suggestion, I've started seeing a therapist. Over the course of only two sessions, I'm pretty sure my fear of intimacy stems from a self-esteem issue. However, one thing I didn't mention in my first email is that a few years ago, I contracted herpes (simplex 1) from an ex-boyfriend while receiving oral sex.

One side of me says:

I was very satisfied living a life of "jumping from rock to rock" until this happened. Now that I have an incurable STD, I don't feel it's possible to continue my bachelorette lifestyle w/o having to repeatedly divulge sensitive/incriminating information to various strangers---which of course, would probably scare them all away---and thus, would leave me sexless and emotionally damaged.

What are the Alternatives to Kissing & Intercourse?

Sun, 09/07/2008 - 13:53
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi, Betty.

I have herpes--genital and oral. In addition, since I had my tubes tied about 5 years ago, I get my period about every 21 to 25 days. This was never an issue before. I was married, but am now separated and in a new relationship.

I Have Herpes, Hate Condoms, and Want Great Sex

Sat, 03/01/2008 - 05:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Betty,

This is kind of a last resort that I am writing to you. I am a 32 year old woman that contacted herpes 2 on my 30th bday, exactly, from a guy I was dating who cheated on me. I have NEVER been in a relationship because every guy I have ever dated has told me "I can't commit," or "I'm not sleeping with anyone else now, but I might"...and other various degrading comments. I have NEVER had a guy care about me, not one time.