Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

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Professor Barry Komisaruk has been studying female orgasm by having brave women like Barbara Carrellas experience orgasm in MRI machines.

The goal was to understand how the orgasm builds up from genital stimulation and what parts of the brain become recruited and finally build up into an orgasm.

Here's what he found:

Activity first builds up in the genital area of the sensory cortex, a response to being touched in that region. Activity then spreads to the limbic system, a collection of brain structures involved in emotions and long-term memory.

Dear Dr. Betty,

To start from, thank you! Recent discovery of your website and books have been a life changing experience. You must have answered a number of similar questions already, but then I decided to write to you anyway, thinking it can be quite a therapeutic exercise.

Part 1. Background and anti-masturbation childhood.

Here is the link to www.wellandgoodnyc.com and the new online article out about me written by a woman in attendance's take on my Wine and Chocolate Sex Salon for Women. It was a great night with all the women present, about eight of them, leaving happy and thrilled from my sex advice and learning some of what I consider my most important information on female sexuality and female orgasm in its different forms and new ways to use sex toys you may have never thought of before, alone or with your partner.

By the end of the session, one woman, who started out with a viewpoint of sex as "making love" to your beloved is the highest sexform to asking me with a coy-firey voice if I was available to play as non-monogamous lovers-- in the sexform readers of my erotica recognize. The reason I mention this is not to brag. It's to show how a woman sold on the superiority of "making love" became equally interested in high quality carnal sexuality after taking in my info.

First a note on my last blog which, according to Betty, is a departure from my usual format. New is good, and, I wanted to play with demonstrating mutually orgasmic and deeply intense intimate sex. I think sharing semen like that, especially between a heterosexual couple, is a very intimate act per how I define one huge form of intimacy: doing something with a sex partner that you can't do with just anyone. Guns-blazing dominant sex and tone too, but not parasitic. Like I said on my facebook page, what would it be like to be the nice guy and the bad boy with all of their strengths and none of their weaknesses? It's not easy, but that's the path I make available in my work. You know. That whole yang-yin thing. Develop em' both to their respective greastest strengths.

For those new to my blog, I write on my sex life, in erotica form, because many of
us need only read of an example of what really is possible or that
they'd never thought of. It so often lights a desire inside to "want to
feel that." To want to learn how to make sex better through sex education, consulting, and coaching, maybe for the
first time in their lives.

For those new to my blog, I write on my sex life because many of
us need only read of an example of what really is possible or that
they'd never thought of. It so often lights a fire inside to "want to
feel that." To want to learn how to make sex better, maybe for the
first time in their lives.  

This
blog entry is based on email feedback I received from Samantha on the night we hung out at a sex-themed bar then bolted to the nearest bedroom.

Olivia and I woke up together and after she seduced and emptied my cock of its come by hand and voice, (next blog post) she came back to bed from washing all the come off her hands and arms and said,Olivia and I woke up together and after she seduced and emptied my cock of its come by hand and voice, (next blog post) she came back to bed from washing all the come off her hands and arms and said,

"Will you vibe me?"

I was washed out to sea with oxytocin and morning drowsy.

"Hmm? Vibe you?"

"Yeah, I just had the idea. Use a vibe on me. The orgasm will keep my cramps smoothed out today."

"Um, okay!"

 My incredible lover Olivia wrote this based on our second night
together for my blog. I wanted to have a lover's perspective on the sex
we shared and because it's hot. Olivia's a great erotica writer too! As always, I submit erotica based on my sex life so people will understand what's possible to feel and do. I don't know how many lovers have told me, "I didn't know my body could do/feel that!" -E.A

Hello all. I often utilize my blog to write, with each lover's permission,
on the sex I'm having in real-life. I do so of course for the sultry
entertainment value and also to illuminate for those who want to try this at home.... Read More.

-E.A

Had to put this up asap. Was so hot. The Butterfly sex toy by Vibratex came through inside my lover, the super-curvy Olivia, with flying colors:

The scintillations in my chest and stomach beat like my pulse. The ones that make me feel like: “Sink your teeth into this woman and make her beauty and body yours!”

I strode into my second playdate with Kristina. We kissed at her door once again, my hands at her narrow waist, my palms flat with fingers spread, just feeling her toned body under her thin houseshirt mingled with the pleasure our lips shared. We finished our embrace and said that she’d read the blog posts on our sex and having been a life-long erotica lover, ever since she was young, she loved having the experience of reading a published erotica piece with her as the star…
based on actual sex she’d had with the writer.

And that’s exactly what I did. Took her close to me and kissed her slow and deep, our bellies pressed together, her breasts pillowed against my chest. Those big hazel eyes opened when we finished our hellos, framed by tight red curls down to Kristina’s mid-back. She was just finishing up making dinner for us. I sat in the kitchen chatting while she stirred a pot on the stove. Small talk and sex education talk. Fast forwarding, she asked me when things were all done if I was hungry. I got down on my knees in front of her. Kristina was sitting in the opposite chair from the one I just left and let me open her legs.

“I’m going to give you head…”