How I Create Sexual Energy & Desire

Tue, 03/07/2017 - 08:07
Submitted by bila kolbe

There are those times every month when I get hot flashes. I’m not talking about those uncomfortable body temperature spikes often attributable to menopause which I, as a sexagenarian, fortunately do not experience.

No, in this case I’m referring to feeling downright randy and prone to impromptu episodes of ‘backstroke roulette’. So while my hands were dutifully employed, my mind got to pondering about some of my favorite ways to ratchet up sexual energy during solo and paired trysts.

How Can Women Present Such Different Responses?

Thu, 08/25/2016 - 07:02
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

First of all, as a woman, I can't thank you and Carlin enough for your empowering, liberating efforts, which have closely guided me through my journey of sexual discovery.

I've masturbated with tension since I've been a child by humping the mattress and keeping my legs straight. It gives me localized, nice little orgasms which are clearly defined: there's a built-up of tension, I reach that small peak, calm down, get wet and my clit becomes very sensitive (in a good way).

Sexual Fantasy is as Important as Genital Stimulation

Mon, 07/27/2015 - 10:55
Submitted by Betty Dodson

While I understand vibrators are here to stay along with other sex toys and porn, the younger generation seems to be overly reliant on technology. They forget our most potent sexual motivation is the human brain.

Pornography, Media Culture & the Proliferation of Fantasy

Tue, 06/04/2013 - 08:15
Submitted by Marisa Black

Joseph Gordon-Levitt has written and directed a new movie, Don Jon, in which he also stars. After premiering at Sundance in January 2013 and set for wide release in October 2013, the trailer came out last month. I'm excited to see what Joe does with the topics of porn, fantasy, relationships.

I Have Lactation Fantasies

Fri, 02/15/2013 - 09:33
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

Is it wrong that i am a male but i realy want to lactate? I am 34 and never had a any thoughts like this before. But i was reading a book that had strange but true tales in it. There was a story about a man who helpped with breast feeding in his tribe. I never thought a man could lactat. So i did some looking and found men can. Now it is in my mind and is all i can think off. So is this normal.. is this right? i am unsure.

Dear B,

Rachel's Hot Doctor Sex Scene, Part I

Fri, 07/16/2010 - 11:54
Submitted by Eric Amaranth

Here is the first part of my sex life coaching client Rachel's erotic journaling on her fist foray into roleplay sex as a dominant woman doctor. The topic of one of our sessions was how to create a roleplay doctor fantasy she'd always had and surprise her husband with it. The help I gave Rachel was in how to make the roleplay realistic and believeable. It can be easy sometimes to get a little cheesy, which can disrupt the roleplay's erotic potency. It pulls you back to an awareness that it's not real. Not hot!

Caroline's Fantasy

Mon, 07/06/2009 - 07:42
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Inspired by your revealed fantasy in last weeks podcast, here is mine. You've got a "scoop".

It is lunchtime and I just skied from La Masse a 3650 meter high mountain in Tignes, France. I am warm from the the morning action and the adrenaline is high. In a cozy bistro where the ski instructors take their half hour lunch break before going to the next class of students, I take my jacket, headgear, gloves and ski glasses off, go to the bathroom, reset my hair and put magenta gloss on my lips. I take the first layer of my top cloths off and I am in my black thermal sweater.

Happy Father's day sex fantasies with the family

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Sat, 06/20/2009 - 12:50
Submitted by Family_fantasy

I am male, 42, hetro.

I have been having fantasies lately that my father and I are
together satisfying and loving a very beautiful young woman. Is this
normal? My father passed away some years ago. I don't know why I am having these now?

I have had many incest fantasies, but they are not with
members of my real family because am not really turned on by my
relatives, but instead these relatives are idealized generic parental or sibling units.

Orgasming Virgins, Dog F*cking, and Handjobs

It started with the Ask Dr Betty questions and 2 "Dodsons".  Yes, we're workaholic party girls who know that "dog f*cking" is the 3rd most common search term on the site and that women are afraid to poo during intercourse.  But isn't that why you love us?

23:26 minutes (21.46 MB)

The Clothes Line

Thu, 05/21/2009 - 22:11
Submitted by JimHall

The Clothes Line


My church fantasy :)

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Fri, 03/27/2009 - 11:26
Submitted by Petunia



So this was a fantasy "letter" I wrote to someone I'm involved with... so when it says "you", it was originally aimed at a specific person- but you can substitute yourself for fun :)

Betty Gets An Exclusive With Carlin

One night sharing a pipe we got the idea that "Betty" should interview "Carlin".  Sober and menstrual I beared all...even my darkest sex fantasy.

33:54 minutes (38.8 MB)

How Can I Connect to Pleasure?

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Wed, 03/04/2009 - 18:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I started masturbating in my early teens, but I wasn't having orgasms (or at least I didn't think I was). In my mind, I never orgasmed until a few years ago (I'm 21), and this was with a guy who I had been fooling around with for a while. Soon, the orgasms became regular (only during oral though.) Now I am with someone new. He's very affectionate, he loves to please me, and is constantly looking for new ways to give me pleasure. We've been together for a year. I have an orgasm every time he goes down on me (which is happily quite often), and I've been able to orgasm few times from manual stimulation. My problem is that sometimes the lead-up to the orgasms are not that great. During foreplay, I find myself constantly becoming distracted with external thoughts.

masturbation: first time

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Mon, 02/16/2009 - 00:11
Submitted by heroeth

I'm a 45 single male.

The first time I masturbated to orgasm was in the bathroom adjacent to my bedroom. I'd just turned 13 and I loved Penthouse and fantasizing about being ravished by my mum's friends. I decided to use vaseline to lube my cock and help me stroke it. I was on my back on the bathroom floor and had an amazing seizure as I stroked at the end of which there was a white goo that had squirted from my young dick.

love & be creative


Fantasize About Pantyhose. Is This Normal?

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Thu, 01/08/2009 - 15:43
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I have been masturbating on a regular basis. I have a few questions that I hope you can answer. i like to masturbate while looking at images of womens legs in pantyhose and focus on mainly their legs. Is this a good thing? When I do masturbate I masturbate with my penis still covered in my underwear and pants. Im afraid to stroke my
penis with a bare hand?