Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

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Before I begin part three, here is a good comment I made on one of VirginMonoblogger's posts dealing with what I do to make dirty talk like slut and whore sweeter along with the erotic sting, or what I say if those words are never positive for my lover.

It was the last day of shooting. We planned on me doing some masturbation plus the Aneros prostate massager in action, showing how to use it and yes, a heterosexual man enjoying it while still coming out the other side... heterosexual. I quote Ray Stevens on this one: "Oh, the miracles God has wrought in this old world!" A guy can do a very similar, if not in some ways better, method of prostate stimulation with the g-spotter Magic Wand attachment and a Hitachi Magic Wand. That way you get strong vibe and direct prostate massage. The trade off is the wand and g-spotter are a bit more challenging to use than the Aneros. However, I do remember the day I was in a threesome where I was missionarying with one woman while the other massaged my prostate with the g-spotter/wand combo from behind me. Talk about fast uncontrollable orgasm.

Then it suddenly occurred to me that on the Aneros website and others like it, there are already vids on the net like this. Nothing new. I'd never seen a video showing a woman using the Aneros inside her man while giving his penis lots of due attention.

Tonight is the teaser for a food and sex workshop that I'm co-presenting on August 30th with Meredith Sobel of www.sobelwellness.com. It's going to start tonight at 8:00pm at a sex-positive bar called Happy Ending (www.happyendinglounge.com); 302 Broom St. on the corner of Broome St and Forsyth St. downtown NYC. It's a 40 minute presentation. Come by and say hey. :) If you want to register or get info for the workshop itself, go to: http://passionfood.eventbrite.com or call 212-222-8187

Here's some feedback from two clients who had sex life coaching phone session(s) with me. The first one is from a mid-40's woman wanting to learn some strong oral sex skills for a man and the second is from a thirty-something woman who was searching for solutions on how to get better at sex, yet not let classic goal-orientation symptoms occur. I believe a much more accurate term is immediate-success orientation.

This week I attended part three of four of the Energy Essentials Series with Teeni Dakini. Teeni has been actively studying and experiencing energy work since 1990 and is an Advanced Certified Tantric Educator and Certified Process Therapist. The Energy Essentials Series teaches basic exercises and principles for energy awareness. Her website is www.teenidakini.com.

This class was called, "Container". It described the role our personal outer energy field plays in social interactions with others and our environment on a everyday basis and in more intense moments like conflict or sex.

It was great for me to learn, at least from Teeni's perspective, the nature of my energy bubble, so to speak; how strong or weak it is, how fraught with holes and how complete or incomplete, how it can react when in contact with other people's energy. Depending on its state, people can energetically crowd us or not take up the space they deserve.

Last night Eric Amaranth, Betty's protege, did his first sex workshop at Kiki De Montparnasse's Soho store. The night was fabulous. First, we walked through the store because it's so stimulating. In fact, I've modeled my bedroom after Kiki (subtle deep colors - purple and gray - with erotic photography on the walls, sumptuous velvet curtains for the dressing rooms, and sculpted works of art that double as sex toys. I loved it.

Now, if you go into the store and make a sharp right there's a staircase leading up to a private second floor - that's where we had our workshop. Imagine a room in a deep aubergine with large photos of cherry blossoms on the walls, a skylight above, and a long table at the end of the room with a large, black candelabra with black tapered candles in the middle with artistically mastered sex toys lying on gray velvet pillows to either side with a circle of chairs and lounging furniture in front of the table for guests.