double standard

Alice Brine Breaks Down Consent = Brilliance

Fri, 07/29/2016 - 07:23
Submitted by Carlin Ross

This is motherfucking brilliant.  Thank you, Alice Brine, for this amazing analogy (and Rebekah for the link).  Sometimes you have to flip the tables to make a point.

For me, it all comes down to personal liberty.  Either we all have the right to be safe - our bodies and our property - or its a free for all.

Do You Feel There's a Double Standard: Male vs Female Bisexuality?

Mon, 06/13/2016 - 07:27
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Dr. Betty & Carlin:

I have had good heterosexual sex throughout my life. Now, at 50, I'm more interested in ever to have sex with another male. Seems that my most arousing fantasies these days involve sucking a beautiful hard cock and fucking and getting fucked hard by another guy... It's such a hot fantasy!

My question is, do you feel there's a double standard when it comes to male vs female bisexuality. I feel that somehow it's seen as OK for the girls to fuck other girls, but for boys to fuck is just down right gay. Your feedback is respected and appreciated!


Dear B,

I Love to Orgasm but I'm Afraid of Becoming a Slut

Mon, 03/28/2011 - 13:54
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I'm 24 and got my first boyfriend at 23 (we're still together and intend to stay so). I only had my first orgasm this year, and my first masturbatory orgasm a few months back. I guess my fear is of being a slut. I know I'm not one, logically, I mean, I've not even had PIV sex yet. I'm happily doing other non penetrative things (other than fingers) but there's always this niggle that I'm 'ruining myself'. I've always been interested in sex, and I do want to be happy with it, but I'm terrified that perhaps I won't stay with my boyfriend and some other guy will be disappointed, or that my boyfriend will be disappointed if I make myself 'loose' with a menstrual cup or masturbation, even though I know it doesn't really work like that and he reassures me that that won't happen.

How Would You Define a Slut?

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Sat, 11/22/2008 - 12:13
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I am new to your site and learning to properly masturbate. I have been trying to masturbate more because I am married and just feel so promiscuous. I love my husband dearly but he just does not satisfy me in bed. I have a friend I have known for over 12 years and we have sex. Of course my husband doesn't know but it's the best sex I have ever had. I just feel so dirty and hate lying but can't control my urges. Do I need help?

Sienna Miller "Slut" Attack

Sun, 08/24/2008 - 08:51
Submitted by Carlin Ross

This has me so mad. A few days ago someone vandalized Sienna Miller's residence by spray painting the word "SLUT" on the front of her house.

Now, for those of you who don't read celebrity gossip blogs like I do to catch anything pro-sex that I can link to, Sienna Miller is dating a recently separated man who has 3 children. She met him after he was separated but the talk of the town is that after Jude Law and now the new guy that she's a homewrecker.