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Mind & Mother Nature in Open Relationships

Mon, 05/24/2010 - 23:34
Submitted by Eric Amaranth

I've not spoken before on ways I use to handle my currently non-monogamous personal life. Here's one key principle of several that I personally use and teach to my clients. It will help couples in open relationships. It's easier said than done. Through patience with yourself and a partner, and simply knowing that your body and mind are reacting as Mother Nature intended, (so that you'll be more likely to make babies with somebody) the more success and peace you may have with having a primary partner and/or one or more lovers.

The First Female Desire Drug In Testing

Tue, 11/24/2009 - 00:08
Submitted by Eric Amaranth

Here's an article from www.bloomberg.com on a pharmaceutical (drug) called at this point, flibanserin, that's reportedly increasing women's desire for sex. It made me think of what I see as the two forms of sexual desire for women and men.

There's brain and body chemically-induced hunger to have sex, and then there's the erotic interest in engaging in a sex act that the person really likes or wants, irrelevant to how much the body is aching to do things that make babies. That's an important distinction. Here's what I think is funny/interesting about how vague the criteria for their trials they are testing for, quote:

Sexual Activity Spikes During Holiday Season

Mon, 12/22/2008 - 19:43
Submitted by Carlin Ross

A study by biorhythm researchers and makers of sex-related products say the uptick in sex is fueled by resolutions to have children, alcohol and parties.  Fa La La La La...La La La La!

The Christmas-New Year's period produces a year-high spike in sexual activity and conceptions in the United States, according to biorhythm researchers and makers of sex-related products.
They attribute the increase to holiday leisure and New Year's resolutions to have children. New Year's irresolution fueled by alcohol and partying is another contributing factor.

My Boyfriend Has No Sex Drive

Sat, 03/15/2008 - 04:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Dr. Betty,

Firstly, I'd like to say that I really admire your work; I've learnt a great deal from your website and the TV show you did in GB recently! Where to start? My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over five years now. I am 22 and he is nearly 25 years old. For the last 18 months or so, our sex life has slowly dwindled and has now reached the stage where we don't have sex for well over a month at a time. I have quite a high sex drive and always have had a higher sex drive than my partner, but he seems to have lost his libido almost completely. We have a wonderful relationship in other respects; both of us talk about our plans for the future and I have no doubt that he loves me and wants us to stay together.

I'm Not Attracted to My Husband Anymore

Sat, 03/15/2008 - 04:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty:

I'm concerned because I've been with my husband for 5 years (married for 1) and I'm no longer sexually attracted to him. However, I am very excited about flirting with other men and possibly making out with them. I know my husband is monogamous and I've told him that I like to flirt and he's ok with that and ok about me getting male attention if it's innocent. But I wonder if having these desires will continue until I act on them (and then escalate if I do).