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We'd already turned off the DVD player and my girlfriend had stripped herself down. We'd made out on the couch together after watching a few hot sex scenes, and it came to me to kiss her with the same kind of kiss she'd seen the characters on-screen do. It brings more kick to the mental-erotic put in her mind by the movie. It was a very slow kiss. The character kissing the woman on screen was making sure she felt every aspect of her lips. I held the same intention and it was very well received.

Hi Doc!

So here's my problem: my wife is one of those "extremely rare" women you describe that has exclusively vaginal orgasms. She has never had one outside of penetrative intercourse. As such, she's not really interested in receiving oral sex. Problem is -- I love it! I wish she would let me go down on her more often, but it just doesn't do much for her. She's too uncomfortable with my face planted between her legs to enjoy it. How can I help her get more comfortable with being on the receiving end (she gives great head, btw)??

Dear R,

Hi Doc!

So here's my problem: my wife is one of those "extremely rare" women you describe that has exclusively vaginal orgasms. She has never had one outside of penetrative intercourse. As such, she's not really interested in receiving oral sex. Problem is -- I love it! I wish she would let me go down on her more often, but it just doesn't do much for her. She's not too uncomfortable with my face planted between her legs to enjoy it. How can I help her get more comfortable with being on the receiving end (she gives great head, btw)??

Dear R,

This is an interesting cunnilingus tutorial that I found on The Clitoris.com. The article was written by unknown writers and is considered public property. So, I don't know who to thank. But I do have to add my own two cents to this very worthwhile tutorial.

The first point I'd like to make is that this tutorial should be used as a guide only. It is not meant to replace communication with your partner. She should be your first and last resource. What works for one woman will not work for all of womankind. Also, keep in mind that not every woman climaxes from oral sex.

In light of my last post I thought today (and everyday) we should celebrate female pleasure and the beauty of cunnilingus. This lovely little clip is the trailer for the film J'FAIS DU PORNO ET J'AIME ÇA (I make porn and I like it) from Belgian filmmaker and lingerie designer, Murielle Scherre.

I strode into my second playdate with Kristina. We kissed at her door once again, my hands at her narrow waist, my palms flat with fingers spread, just feeling her toned body under her thin houseshirt mingled with the pleasure our lips shared. We finished our embrace and said that she’d read the blog posts on our sex and having been a life-long erotica lover, ever since she was young, she loved having the experience of reading a published erotica piece with her as the star…
based on actual sex she’d had with the writer.

I awoke very early the next morning. Kristina was there next to me in bed, her sunset-red hair sprayed over her pillow and her viola-shaped body under the blankets we shared. I crept out of bed and into the bathroom.

And that’s exactly what I did. Took her close to me and kissed her slow and deep, our bellies pressed together, her breasts pillowed against my chest. Those big hazel eyes opened when we finished our hellos, framed by tight red curls down to Kristina’s mid-back. She was just finishing up making dinner for us. I sat in the kitchen chatting while she stirred a pot on the stove. Small talk and sex education talk. Fast forwarding, she asked me when things were all done if I was hungry. I got down on my knees in front of her. Kristina was sitting in the opposite chair from the one I just left and let me open her legs.

“I’m going to give you head…”

We met at a professional suite. Kristina’s height, tiny waist, and magnificent broad hips was the first thing I noticed from the short distance we stood from each other. She was almost as tall as me. We drew closer, introduced by a mutual friend, and shook hands. Her big pretty eyes were framed by down-to-her-midback, curly bush of red hair. Then there was her full bustline—oh my. Kristina’s voice was alto-pitched and self-assured. Which turns me on just as much, but in a different way from soprano-toned women. Our friend gave me her email address when I expressed my interest. We emailed, and Kristina said she was happy I’d acted on my instinct of our shared attraction.

hi

im a 19 yr old lesbian girl, i have only came out on the scene and i am being flocked by women, however i have had some sexual encounters but they haven't went that far..... now my main fear/concern is oral sex, im worried i may not be able to pleasure the woman and maybe she mite not like it, i know this sounds silly but i would like my partner to squirt..... because then i will know for definate it was good for her, do you have any advice for me????