Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

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It seems like yesterday that we all gathered in the circle and answered the question, "how do you feel about your body and how do you feel about your orgasm". 

My favorite part of the film is genital show and tell.  It was the second scene we shot that day and it was flawless from beginning to end.  We didn't make one editorial change.  It flowed, the images were captivating, and the stories were moving.  

That's the healing power of looking at real images of real vulvas.  I tear up every time I watch it.  

When you read comments like this it makes all the sleepless nights, round-the-clock devotion, and criticism worth it.

Betty and I hope that women across the globe will hold their own bodysex groups and experience the power of sisterhood.

Txurri77:

Thank you so much for such a wonderful workshop.

(photo credit: Eric Francis)

The second of the two questions in our Bodysex circle framed my answers to both. How do I feel about my orgasm? I hadn't considered it before. At least not directly. Do I feel anything specifically about my orgasm? I asked myself. Or do I simply feel my orgasm?

The first question, how I feel about my body, was one I chewed on at length. But mulling how I felt about my orgasm was unfamiliar. Taking my time to consider the questions before, during, and now after the Bodysex filming, has in itself been enlightening.

I just sent over the final edit changes for Betty Dodson's Bodysex Workshop.  We're releasing it online by November 16th in time for our debut on Norwegian television.  Then, we'll have dvds authored and ready for release by xmas. 

Thank you for your support and donations.  We couldn't have pulled it off without you.  I can't wait to send out the dvds to our Kickstarter donors.  It's more exciting than words can express.

I cry every time I watch it.  It's so moving and I was in the circle.  There isn't a moment that I'm not completely riveted.  One hour and 40 minutes - it just flies by. 

How do you feel about your body? How do you feel about your orgasm?

These two questions focused and grounded my Bodysex experience into a tangible, personal narrative. They rang in my mind over several months, peaked with the documentary's filming, and have continued clanging since I returned home.

In tandem, the questions bounce off each other. Taken together, they intertwine, snaking into and around the other until they cannot be pulled apart easily.

This is the moment when we got to see Sheila's huge clit...amazing. 

I went to Carlin’s yesterday. I thought we were going to work/talk as usual, but suddenly Carlin told me that she just received the second cut of the bodysex workshop and we were going to watch it.

I thought, "am I really going to watch the filming of the bodysex group?"  Yes I was and so we did.

Whe it comes to sexual imagery, I've always found that the big difference between watching something produced in the US compared to something produced in Denmark was the authenticity the Danish production had and the American production lacked. Well, I guess you just need an authentic cast and crew, and that is what the bodysex workshop had.

We watched the rough cut of the bodysex documentary last night...it was alot to take in.  Sheila, Marisa, Sayaka, Helen, and Davina were breathtaking...from their life stories to their authentic orgasms. 

We're still tweaking but our director, Katie, sent me this stylized image from the workshop.  At the end of shooting, we all hugged each other in a group and didn't want to let go *sigh*

This is one of my favorite moments from the shoot.  Francie was part of our crew.  We kept on joking that every person on the set was female because she's carrying a girl. 

After we wrapped Day 2 of the bodysex group, we started getting dressed.  Francie asked if we could get naked again.  She wanted to take this pic of her pregnant belly exposed with all of us for her daughter.  What a moment. 

Saturday September 17, the day after our closing party at Carlin and Geof’s apartment and I am one exhausted, happy and very fortunate octogenarian to have had the opportunity to document a workshop that I ran for 25 years. Then to have it be spectacularly successful is a dream come true.

One of the parts I eagerly anticipated about the Bodysex filming was the smell. What would it be like, I wondered, to be naked and aroused with a circle of women masturbating? Not only what would it look like or sound like or feel like, but what would it smell like?

In one of their weekly videos, I remember Carlin talking about the Bodysex circle in Copenhagen and the musky scent that collected in the room during the group masturbation. My excitement grew at the prospect of gathering with my sisters being filmed for this Bodysex documentary. Among other parts of our ritual, we would masturbate together in Betty's living room, the temple she built over decades to the Goddess of Sexual Love and Abundance.

This picture of Jenny Wilson is one of the iconic images of the 1970's. On the surface, it portrays a young woman celebrating "free love" but she was a woman coping with her divorce:

"When I divorced I started going to rock concerts as a way of trying to pick myself up off the floor," she said. "It was a kind of freedom after being brought up strictly and convent educated. I used to go to Reading and Knebworth a lot to listen to various bands.

We're in the midst of filming the Bodysex documentary.

Cast and crew are gathering, many of us meeting each other in person
for the first time, and old friends reunited.

The welcome and the energy and the excitement are providing me with a rush of adrenaline and emotion. I am endeared, and we haven't even yet sat down together, naked, in a circle, the director and crew capturing the ritual to edit with our interviews, and share with the rest of you.

As many of Betty and Carlin's readers know, this is the week that they are filming a Bodysex workshop for a DVD. This is an all-women's event. I consider myself one of the men close to Betty and her work who is holding space for the experience, from the outside. Over the next few days I will share my thoughts about how that feels and what it means to me.