Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

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i like sex. my wife desire is low and when she has sex it is painful and she would rather have nothing inserted. main position is like missionary but her legs closed and straight while my legs are straight but outside hers so penetration is less and not as deep. she says part of non-desire comes from japan where they mainly eat vegetables, japan diet where desire is not as much as in america. what can increase her desire and heal pain (whether physical or emotional or both).

thanks,

JC

Dear JC,

Without knowing your wife's age, if she is close to menopause then her vaginal lining is thin which causes pain. She would need to see a gynecologist and check her hormone levels. Read my essay on "Hormone Replacement" using our search engine. If she is fertile, then you need to use additional lubrication. If you are using latex condoms get my Sliquid Organics Natural Lube.

I don't buy the excuse about diet in Japan. They eat fish as well as veggies which is one of the best diets possible. I'm afraid you like sex but your wife doesn't. Sounds like some avoidance going on here. Perhaps you might consider some short term sex counseling. Or get her the Magic Wand vibrator and kick start her interest in feeling good once her clitoris gets involved. Also you would both benefit from reading my book Orgasms for Two.

Dr. Betty