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Hello

At the beginning of last summer, my boyfriend and I successfully attempted anal sex. And I mean successfully...it was awesome. So ever since, we have occasionally mixed up our regular sex with anal, and it has always been great. However, about two weeks ago, we tried it, and once his dick got about 2 inches in, I felt like my asshole had been stabbed and we had to stop. Over this past weekend, we decided to give it another try, thinking that maybe all my butt needed was some rest, but lo and behold, it was the same feeling. It's puzzling, because pooping and having fingers in my ass still don't hurt...so what is my boyfriend's dick hitting that has made anal sex stop feeling awesome??

Dear A,

Yes, I agree that anal sex can be awesome, but it's rarely an everyday kind of sex for most women. This is why there are times I'd love to be a gay man just for this reason. My problem was getting UTI's (urinary tract infections) after anal sex. My favorite position is Doggie and lube from the anus would invariable drip into the urethral opening. A day or two later, it hurt to pee and then it was a trip to the urologist. All that she recommended was taking a Bactrin tab after anal sex. Nope! I didn't want to take antibiotics on a regular basis. So I shifted over to enjoying double penetration which was still Doggie, but boyfriend was doing vaginal penetration with a dildo in my behind. Heavenly. Get my book Orgasms for Two. I devote a whole chapter to this subject.

Now, as to what is causing a stabbing pain, I honestly have no idea. Sorry to say I don't have an answer for you. It might be nothing or maybe hemorrhoids, but if this continues, see your urologist for a check up. Let me know what you discover.

Dr. Betty