Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

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Hiya Betty,

Love your website! I am a 21 year old female who just gave birth to my second child two months ago. I have been having trouble getting wet ever since I can remember. Even when I masturbate, at first I get a little moist but then it seems to just dry up and then I get uncomfortable. I've almost always had to use lube whenever I have sex with my husband. Is this normal for my age? And is there anything I can do to make myself get wet?

N

Dear N,

Forget "normal" and use my Almond Oil massage oil when you masturbate or have partnersex. If you are using condoms, then try my Liquid Silk. Many women, myself included, rely on some kind of additional lubrication for all kinds of sexual activity.

I remember back in my thirties when I would be totally turned on at the moment and dry as a bone. Other times I'd be doing the dishes not thinking about sex when I'd feel wetness between my thighs. Go figure! Other things that can interfere with vaginal lubrication is where we are in our menstrual cycle, smoking, taking meds, stress and a million other things.

Our hormone levels vary and that also affects bodily secretions quite differently in individuals. Not getting wet is not the same as a man not getting erect. Instead of using wetness as a barometer for female sexual arousal, feeling a hard clit would make more sense. We see a man get erect but we don't have to see glad come dripping off the end of his dick to signal arousal. You know when you are turned on because you can feel your own sexual excitement. So relax, get out the lube and enjoy your orgasms.

Betty