Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

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Hi Betty,

When I am using my hitachi (which I Love) I sometimes pee, i can't help it, it just comes out. Is this normal? Should I see a doctor or tell my gynecologist? Also I don't know if I orgasm because I can't feel my internal muscles flexing, but it feels great! I love sex with my husband, it feels amazing but I never feel those muscles pulsing or flexing, either during sex or when I use my hitachi. Thanks for any advise you can give.

Thanks,

Dear R,

Observe how you are using your pelvic floor muscle (the PC muscle) during your build-up. Don't push out or bear down when feelings get intense. Check out my info under Betty's Vaginal Barbell and start doing your Kegel exercises. Avoid putting the Hitachi directly on your clitoris. You might also be experiencing squirting or "female ejaculation." Although it's quite popular these days, it's not something that all women (me included) enjoy. Also during orgasm, not all women feel the uterine contractions or "internal muscles flexing." Since you enjoy what's happening, just put down a towel and keep vibrating. Don't over think sex. Relax and trust your body.

Dr. Betty